February 14, 2025 • 32 mins
Today it's a pleasure to have on one of our communities favorites,Tami Schiltz to our show! Meet Tami—a Health & Healing Coach, host of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast, and soon-to-be gym owner who's turned her own childhood wounds into a pathway of empowerment and joy. As a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s in Nutrition, a Bachelor’s in Exercise & Sport Science, and a Level 2 Certified Energy Healer, she’s passionate about showing moms that reconnecting with our inner child isn’t just healing—it’s the key to unlocking our fullest potential as women. When Tami isn’t inspiring others to embrace self-love and live a life they truly love, you can find her being goofy with her 2 kids, paddle boarding, working out, or nurturing her inner child, Little Tam Tam!
Today we will learn how this strong and amazing mom and biz woman has been able to walk tall through her own personal trauma. As a young girl Tami will share with us her biggest fears as a child, which caused her to have body dysmphorphia. Also, Tami will share what it's like being a single mom and staying strong for her kiddos while going through a divorce. Also, we will dive into her AMAZING podcast "Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast" Tami's life has led her to this very moment in life and now she is using her own voice to speak to others about trauma. We will also find out how she is celebrating her new "voice" in her up and coming biz adventure! We are so very proud of you girl! xoxoxo
Today we will learn how this strong and amazing mom and biz woman has been able to walk tall through her own personal trauma. As a young girl Tami will share with us her biggest fears as a child, which caused her to have body dysmphorphia. Also, Tami will share what it's like being a single mom and staying strong for her kiddos while going through a divorce. Also, we will dive into her AMAZING podcast "Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast" Tami's life has led her to this very moment in life and now she is using her own voice to speak to others about trauma. We will also find out how she is celebrating her new "voice" in her up and coming biz adventure! We are so very proud of you girl! xoxoxo
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the mads Own Mom Squad podcast, a production
of iHeartRadio. Hard working real mamas having real conversations. Now
sit back, relax, and get ready to talk mom life
with Christa and her squad.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, ladies, I just want you to know we
have a very special woman in house today.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I had the pleasure.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Of meeting her years and years ago at a fitness club.
I was like, dang, girl, can I look like you someday?
And then we just started talking and getting to know
each other. And you just never know the reasons why
you will cross paths with someone else. And as you
all know, I'm a true believer in supporting lady bosses
and that is definitely who she is. Not only is
(00:44):
she an amazing mom, she's an amazing fitness guru, and
she's got an amazing heart, and she's resilient, she's fierce,
and she's been through life. And that is what she's
doing here today to help out so many, especially when
we are talking about trauma, especially when we were talking
about reading, the stigma of mental health and so much more.
(01:06):
Say hello to my beautiful friend, Tammy Schiltz. She is
the health and healing coach of Tammy talks unscripted healing
podcast and host soon to be Jim Owner, which I'm
so stoked about. And she's also a tremendous keynote speaker. Tammy,
it is so great to see you, my love.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Thank you so much for hamy and for making me
tea up before we even get started.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, first, I had to say you just made my
world come to a high level of happiness because when
you last invited me to be on your podcast to
talk about my own journey with trauma and sexual assaults,
we were talking about the one thing that made me
happy in life to distress myself, and you remembered.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
And I'm so honored that you did.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Tammy brought me a gift today and it is of
a beautiful and I kid you not, ladies. It is gorgeous,
a blinged out rollers Gate charm that I can put
on my neck like for a necklace.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Like that's so sweet and that you're remembered.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I needed to honor your inner child and I always
remember details like that. I just feel like I have
this weird, you know, sixth sense with people's in her
child and so like I have to do this for her,
so I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
It was very very sweet to you.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Let me first off say, I'm so stinking proud of you.
Speaker 5 (02:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Uh. And the success that you are having in your
personal life with business and with your podcast, I mean,
you're just skyrocketing and as a beautiful mom. I'm excited
to have you here today because that's what we're really
talking about, is getting through life and trying to heal
from the inside out when it comes to trauma.
Speaker 5 (02:42):
Why is this so important to you, Oh man, that's
such a loaded question.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
But my whole journey with diet and exercise and being
a dietician and getting into fitness, I always thought something
was wrong with me and that I was broken, and
this is why I couldn't figure it out and why
I always struggled with my weight. And once I started
to get that stuff quote unquote figured out, I.
Speaker 5 (03:05):
Realized it was never about that.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
And then I had all of these deeper childhood wounds
and I had this massive unworthiness wound that was impacting every.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Area of my life.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
It led into my career, it ed into my marriage,
the way I parented, the way I was just showing
up in the world and playing small.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
And so that's why you inspired me so much, was.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Like you're someone like stepping into their life, stepping into
their gifts, and why can't I do that? Even though
I felt it inside of me to be able to
do that, there was something always holding me back, and
it was this wound just constantly irritating me in a way.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, because again, when you're a child and you go
through like trauma, like many of us, grew up with
not sharing our feelings. And I think that's the biggest
issue right in today's culture of mental health, is that
we got to let kids know, especially that they have
a voice, yes.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Absolutely, and letting them be seen and letting them be heard,
and knowing that they matter and that they're worthy of
our time and energy. And so I'm very intentional about
that with my kids now.
Speaker 5 (04:05):
And even though I.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Had I'm one of those kids. I had a pretty
good childhood. You know, I have two parents and you
know they're still married. So when I look back, it
was really easy for me to disregard my childhood experience.
But I was one of those kids where it was
like a pebble in my shoe and it was just
these small what we kind of referred to as small
t traumas that was just in my shoe this whole
time and ended up creating this massive wound. And so
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I wanted to give voice to people like me who
maybe didn't have the big in your face traumas but
realized they were still self sabotaging whether you know. For me,
I saw it when I was working with people in
terms of their nutrition being a dietician, I would see
them going back to old self sabotaging habits and behaviors
like gosh, like, I got to get to the root
of this. But that was me for so long too,
(04:52):
So I just kept seeing that playing out in my
life and everyone else's life, like I have got to
get to the root of.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
This, and that's hard, especially when you're talking about your
physical beauty and having insecurity about that. Oh yeah, I
know for myself, I grew up that way as well.
I was like, I was very not happy with the
way I looked like, being this awkward redhead with a
glass eye and just not feeling like beautiful, Like looking
(05:22):
at all these other girls on the cheerleading squad, I'm like, man, like,
what can I do? And it became almost like a
control thing. What's the one thing I can do is
control how skinny I am?
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Huh yep, That's usually where it starts. And that was
for me too. It was food. It was trying to
control food. And then I got to college and I
realized I couldn't control food, like the emotions that I
didn't want to feel, or my.
Speaker 5 (05:45):
Ego didn't want me to feel. We're too overwhelming.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
So I went the other extreme and I started binge eating,
where I was eating entire pizzas in my car, and
then I had a master's degree nutrition and I was
still doing that. I'm like, Okay, this is not a
knowledge problem, Like I had a lot of money for
this knowledge, and it's not translating into life. When I
feel triggered, when I'm emotionally vulnerable, I wanted to numb
that in any way possible, whether that was through exercising
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too much or binge eating, those are my go.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Tos because like it owned you no matter what.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
And my body just morphia started back in third grade
and I look back at pictures and I was a
normal week kid, but it was the comparison game, just
like you and I would look at my older sister
and everyone would comment about how tall and skinny she was, like, well,
I don't look like her, so there must be something
wrong with me.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Sure, And that message just.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Kept replaying out my entire life, or that I was
just too much, too.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Bold, right right, And that's really difficult too, and you
have to try to figure out, well, why why do
I feel this way?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
And for me, it took me a long time to
figure out why.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
And it was like if I felt if I was attractive,
that I was loved, yes, right, yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Well, and what you and I had talked about on
your episode was that has to come from with always
we keep searching outside of ourselves. And that was the
biggest lesson for me as well, was realizing that I
needed to love me. I needed to be able to
validate me and know that I'm worthy. Otherwise I would
keep searching outside of myself for it and always being disappointed.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Right yeah, because we're not doing it the ways that
we should be, right, right, the healthy ways of doing Yeah.
That when did you begin being able though, to talk
about your feelings, because I think that's a huge caveat
on beginning to heal.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Interestingly enough, it was almost ten years ago. I started
kind of a nutrition reset in a sense because I
was at my end.
Speaker 5 (07:38):
I felt awful.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
That was my rock bottom moment was my daughter was
turning tow and I was at our birthday party searching
for all the clothes. I mean, I can just remember seeing,
you know, my bed full of every outfit because I
felt awful and fat and ugly and everything I tried on.
And I remember not having a single picture with her
at her birthday party. And that was a rock bottom
moment for me because I swore to myself I would
(07:59):
not be that mom.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
And that was a huge turning point.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
And so when I kind of started on this, Okay,
I'm I'm doing this, I'm surrendering to this process, and.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
I'm a dietitian, so like I just needed to get.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Out of my own way, and I opened up about
it and I started sharing that on social media. I
mean it was basically Facebook at that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
The scariest place to be to oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
And I remember it was like Confessions of the Detoxing
Dietitian because you know, you don't do detoxes and fasts
and things like that as a dietician. You know, it
was very looked down on, but I was like, I
need to do this for me, and I can't care
about what anyone else is going to say about it
and think about it. And it's been ten years and
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I'm in the best
shape of my life, and I'm still doing the same
(08:40):
things that I did ten years ago because I took
that one like leap of faith inspired action and said,
I don't care about anyone else.
Speaker 5 (08:48):
I have to do this for me.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
I have to do this so I can be the
mother that I need to be to my daughter at
the time, and now I have a son as well.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Yeah, I mean they look up to you, and that's
that's not like could we get it any you know harder?
And then I think a lot of us talk about
that too on the mom squad. Is you know mom guilt, oh,
dad guilt, trying to not you know, don't enforce that on,
you know, don't judge their parents.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
But it is hard, I.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Mean because now I realize I'm the person that I
am today thinking about ways that my parents were while
now seeing myself.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Oh, I'm like that, you know, And then you got
to like be like, oh, now I.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
Get it now.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
I understand why my parents were so hard on me
or loved me or protected me from this is because
of you know, maybe something they went through or.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Absolutely And I think that's why I'm so passionate about
in her Child work is because it just it helps
you make sense of all that, like, oh my gosh,
I see it now. I get it now. And it
wasn't that they didn't love me. They just didn't know
how to show it in the way that I needed it.
And so it's allowed me to heal on so many levels,
not just my relationship with myself, but with my kids,
with my parents, and it's just been such a beautiful journey.
(09:54):
And I know the term and you know, talking about
trauma and those things can seem kind of scary people,
but to me, it's been the most beautiful journey back
to myself.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Right when we talk about rock bottom, what does that
say to you?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Just an absolute hopelessness. And again I was there just
physically when my daughter was two. But then I had
that same moment surprise surprise during COVID A lot of them,
there is a wave of people that had what I
refer to as like a spiritual awakening at that time,
like we all hit a rock bottom or saw things
(10:32):
like once you see it, you can on see it.
And that to me was it was like someone opened
the box about my marriage and I wanted to close
that box up so fast and pretend I didn't see it.
And because I grew up, or you don't separate, you
don't get divorced, you know, until death do you part
as miserable as you are, whatever, that's.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
What you do.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
And we our marriage looked good on paper and we
didn't fight, but there were emotional needs that weren't being met,
and I just slowly felt myself kind of withering away
and not knowing this woman that's inside me. So to
hear you say all these amazing things at the beginning,
like oh wow, really like that's me, Like it's still
hard to hear that five years later, Like no, I
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have done some work to find this woman. She was
always in there, but I just I silenced her and
I suppressed her and I denied who she was. And
so that was that was a rock bottom moment because
I I saw it, but I had no idea how
I was gonna get through it. That was hard because
it was very isolating because you don't want to tell
your friends about it. You know, It's it's a scary
(11:32):
moment to realize if I take a step, I'm going
to blow out my entire life and not just mine,
my families.
Speaker 5 (11:38):
Your families.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, just like you, I've been in that same boat.
It's it's a very very hard thing to deal with mentally,
do I do I not?
Speaker 5 (11:47):
How is this going to affect?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Like you said, I don't believe that I would have
been able to go through with that decision unless Gia
told me.
Speaker 5 (11:57):
You know, she came up to me and said, you know,
I know you.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Dad tried very hard and I want you to be happy,
so it's time.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
I'm okay if you get divorced.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
And because I couldn't, I couldn't have done it without that,
I just think I would have lived my life with
this enormous guilt right right, And.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
Really like that's what she needed for you to be
who you are, to be the mom that she needed,
right right, And that was a huge eye opening thing
for me as well, Like to think that I'm not
giving my kids childhood wounds by staying in this and
not showing up as the mom they deserve, Like, I'm
absolutely creating childhood wounds right now. Are they going to
get some as they go through a separation, Yes, But
can I, as I'm healing, help them yes. And that
(12:37):
has been one of the most beautiful journeys is healing
with my kids over these last couple of years. And
my daughter was actually on the podcast and we were
kind of talking about this but not talking about it
because we hadn't really made it public yet, but just
the healing that we've done together, and she said right
before that she's like, Mom, this was this is really
hard at first, but I can tell that this was
the best thing for us all. And I was like, oh,
thank goodness, goodness, yeah, because she now sees me, yeah,
(13:01):
being who I am and being authentic and being vulnerable
and all of the stuff that I would tell her
to do. Sure, So like, I can't be a hypocrite
and telling her to do those things and then I'm
not living my authentic truth. That's not okay because my
inner child's like, woll whoa, whoa, what about us?
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Right, Let's not do that.
Speaker 5 (13:18):
Let's just you know, crawl up in a ball and
not do that.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
But yeah, like you said, it and it's it's all
different levels too that you're feeling. It's not only you
changing into this brand new woman with this new life,
trying to figure out what that's going to be all
about them being a single mom with your children that's
a whole other story. So yeah, it's a lot of transformation, right,
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And I happen.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
To do all of it at the same time, Like
I'm going to completely tear down my business and rebrand
and start a podcast and all at the same time.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah, I know, Well, I love it because that's what
you know, being a badass is all about a lady boss.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
So let's get into that. You know, you were definitely
building an empire.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
First, talk about your podcast with us, Oh Tammy Talks.
Speaker 5 (14:05):
Yes, I love it so much. It's such an outlet
for me.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
But I love sharing stories, and that's it all started
with me sharing my story. I saw how that helped
people connect with me and resonate with me, but mostly
how it helped them feel seen in their own story.
And so I have a few friends like when are
you gonna start a podcast? When you to start a pockast?
And I just kept putting it off, putting it off,
and all of a sudden, like you know what, I
need to do this. I just felt like there's something
(14:33):
in me that I need to get this message out
there and help wake people up that we all have
trauma and it's okay to look at it. Actually it's
necessary to look at it so that way you can
heal and step into your gifts, step into your purpose,
show up the way you want to in your everyday life.
And so I just I love having just everyday people
on there just sharing their story, because everybody has a
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story and helping them connect the dots back into their
childhood is is the most rewarding thing because then you
can see like, oh there always was love, or helping
them find again that journey back to themselves and realizing
it all comes from within and your inner child only
needs love from you.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Yeah, yeah, I remember.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
I was so you were the first podcasts that I've
ever or in general platform that I've ever gone onto
to be that in depth with. I was like, WHOA,
Well you made me feel very comfortable number one, and
I think that's so important, Like I don't know, I
just immediately had a connection with you in the Yeah,
that's just you know, we we we went on this
(15:34):
journey together. But I think it's very helpful as we
both know anyone that's been through you know, ups and
downs in live being able to talk and that's legitimately
your company.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
That is what we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Tammy Talks, you know, the unscripted healing podcast is that
you bring people on UH to have these conversations with
Do you feel you always gain something from each interview?
Speaker 5 (15:58):
Every single time? Every single time?
Speaker 4 (16:00):
It just like again, it just feels like a beautiful
gift for me to be able to receive that from people,
to know that people feel comfortable, and I mean, that's
to me one of the greatest gifts that people can
feel safe in my energy and knowing that they'll feel
seen and heard like it's such a beautiful gift and
I love it so much. I never thought that it
would again two years ago, this was not even on
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the radar, but I love it so.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
How many episodes are we at right now?
Speaker 5 (16:26):
I am about to record episode fifty.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Ah, it's just crazy. Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
I might actually have my son on. He's been wanting
to come on.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
He's eight years old and he's just he's such a beautiful,
sensitive soul and I just feel like he has so
much wisdom to share. Sure you know that his sister's
been on there twice, so he's like, when do I
get to be on the podcast?
Speaker 5 (16:44):
Like I think fifty you think if we're going to
celebrate with you.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
But that's so sweet. That is so sweet. And also
Kevin floor to see you.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Yeah, Khalarian, I see is now on your podcast, which
will like continue right.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
Yes, it's like a new partnership there.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Yes, I helped him find little Kevkev, but it's his
inner child.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
I love that he Okay, I like little kem keV.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
I call him Kate Doug. Yeah, he's probably gonna get
very confused. I like that you helped him get there.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Hum well, it was so great because he was talking
about his childhood and the things that he loved and
he's still doing those things every day, and so you
can tell like this man is just a joyful person
and he has fun. But it's because he still does
the things his in her child always loved. He never
disconnected from that. So as we were just talking it all,
a sudden came up in the episode and I was like, dude,
you are totally connected to your inner child, like this
(17:29):
is fantastic and so yeah, you know, he's little kee
keV keviv.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I always say he's one of the funniest guys that
I've met. And but yeah, very serious about helping resistingma
mental health out here, which is tremendous. Let's get into
something as well when it comes to your business, and
I think this is tremendously amazing and powerful because what
you've done with the work the inside of you also
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has now you know, attracted the outside of you.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
And I'm talking about your fitness.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
And what now that you're going to eventually be skyrocketing
out to being wonderful. Tell everyone what's going on with
your new business.
Speaker 5 (18:07):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (18:08):
Yeah again a month two months ago, did not even
know this was on the radar, but it just you
ask and you shall receive. I was like, I need
something big to change my life. I'm a single mom
over here, and like I just kept praying and all
the things, and all of a sudden, I was like, hey,
you want to you want to open a gym?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:25):
What yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
I do.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
I mean everyone always jokes like that I live at
the gym anyway, Like, well, now I might as well.
Speaker 5 (18:33):
So, but that has always been my outlet.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
I mean for a while, I had a very not
for a while, very long time, I had a very
unhealthy relationship with exercise, to the point where I would
do it to exhaustion or injury. But over the last
few years, I have really healed my relationship with my body,
and now I do it as a way like I
just want to see what me and my body are
capable of. I love that, and I want to honor
my body through nutrition because I know what my body
has been through, what I have put it through, and
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so I want to show up for it. I want
to bring the resource so I can build this beautiful house,
and so I'm mindful of what I put into it,
but I also know I need to honor it by
moving it to move my emotions.
Speaker 5 (19:07):
Like that's such a powerful way.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I you know, doing this healing work is all these
emotions that are coming up as I'm healing, anger and
rage and whatever. I get so much of that out
through my workouts. I see it as a powerful outlet
for me to I mean meditate in a sense, but
to really release some stored trauma, some stored energy, and
so I wish more and more people could see it
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as so much more than a workout. It's so much
more than work out because it's really great.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
For your brain and your anxiety, right, everything that comes
with that.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
And when I think of it from an inner child perspective, like,
it's a way that I keep a promise to my
inner child.
Speaker 5 (19:44):
I'm going to show up for you. I'm going to
take care of you.
Speaker 4 (19:47):
And so that helps me stay consistent at the gym
because I want to keep that promise to her because
I know what it's like. I see it in my
kid's eyes when I tell them I'll do something and then.
Speaker 5 (19:55):
I forget and then I don't do it.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
I see that disappointment in their eyes, and I'm like,
I don't ever want my inner child to feel that
if I'm not showing up for her and broke a promise.
Speaker 5 (20:03):
So that's part of working out.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
Why I'm able to be so consistent is because it's
the way that I honor her and a way that
I honor my body.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Oh I love that. Yeah good, it's good.
Speaker 5 (20:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:13):
Now I get to really like help people in my
own little.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Environment to do that.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
So what is the new gym called it?
Speaker 4 (20:18):
Is called F forty five and on the west side
of Madison off Mineral Point Road, and we're hoping to
open at the end of the month here, so.
Speaker 5 (20:24):
Oh my, oh my, gosh.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Well, and also what is great about this is that
you're giving a lot of like men and women and
girls and boys an opportunity because when you're talking about
the insecurity of body and having eating disorders, I mean,
we know that's.
Speaker 5 (20:40):
A huge, huge health scare.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
And to be able to find a way to you know,
heal yourself inside but through the outside and bring those
two together, I mean, you're walking that life, right.
Speaker 5 (20:52):
I know someone had said once like you're in your
own walking billboard. We are. I guess I am, because
I really have.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
And it started that way, like I realized I was
worthy of feeling good, and that worthiness started to trickle
into a career that I felt worthy of, a relationship
I felt worthy of, and just like I don't know,
I'm worthy of this amazing life and stepping into these
gifts and this purpose and so being able to help
people wherever they're at on their fitness journey, on their
health journey, on their healing journey, knowing that it all
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plays together because otherwise nutrition and fitness can be just
a band aid if we're not actually healing the wounds. Yeah,
and so I am very passionate about using all of
those things to heal all of us, the whole person.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
So good mind, goodness.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
I think a lot of times too, we try to
not let people know those things about us, ye, or
there's shame put on that well, and.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
I think that's where our ego wants us to stay,
because as long as we're stuck in the shame cycle,
we stay silent about it, and then ego gets to
stay in control.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
And by speaking about it, you help.
Speaker 4 (21:54):
Validate your inner child's experience where she feels seen and
heard and validated by you knowing that there isn't any
guilt and shame about it. And that's why I love
working with people, whether it's one on one or in groups,
is to help them see the things that we did.
And this was such a beautiful example on your episode.
When you think about the situations that you got in,
like you could see how this was meeting a need
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maybe to feel loved or to feel seen, but that
was ego was trying to meet and need it It
was with the best of intentions, but it just took
us down some really unfortunate paths. And when people can
start to see that, they start to release the guilt
and the shame, Like, oh my gosh, I can see
why I was eating entire.
Speaker 5 (22:32):
Pizzas in my car now, yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:34):
My ego didn't want me to feel the pain of
rejection from my high school boyfriend or whatever it was,
and so I was able to.
Speaker 5 (22:40):
Release so much of that.
Speaker 4 (22:42):
And I think that's so important for people to be
able to work through their stories in that way and
release that shame.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
So interesting that you brought up the boyfriend, because the
way that I realized my connection with food was, like
I said, the fear of abandonment. Yes, I know, we
talked about that. That's one of my issues in life,
and trying to attract this boy, right, like, how can
I get this boy to like me more than just
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a friend, And that's what it was. I'm like, I
just felt like, oh, if I'm skinny, then I'll be
looked as attractive and wanted and loved and not abandoned.
And all those had to do with just me feeling
abandoned and just wanting to be loved and doing it
the wrong way.
Speaker 4 (23:26):
But again, ego thinks that's the best way. But yet
you're inner child's over here, like no, no, no, I just
need you to love me, Krista, like just authentic us
and you know, like all the beautiful gifts that we
have and the quirkiness and all the things that make
us unique, Like you're in your child just wants that
from you, but ego blocks us from that. And that's
why I'm so passionate because I feel like all of
our gifts are.
Speaker 5 (23:47):
Within our inner child.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
He or she knows what you're capable of, what your
potential is, but ego is afraid that if you show
people that, what if they reject you, what if they
abandon you?
Speaker 5 (23:56):
If you're actually real, we're actually vulnerable, And that's who
we need to be. That's who in her child wants.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Us to be. And that's Oh man, how wes say?
This work is so simple? But it's not easy, Like
you can lay it out, Oh, you're in a child,
just needed to do X, Y and Z, but your
egos like, yeah, I got thirty years of evidence to
say otherwise, I tell you why.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
That is a very true statement.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
So being this phenomenal lady boss in our community, helping
so many with you know, getting through with you know,
healing themselves from the inside out now with this amazing
podcast and soon to be amazing gym to helping out
so many. What would you say to to getting through
in life, especially for like your daughter, What would you
(24:45):
say to her? Because right we are we are put
on this pedestal in front of our children, and of
course she's she's seen you now through a lot of
things in your life, you know, with the divorce that
that tell tell us how do we get through?
Speaker 4 (24:59):
Oh man, it's honestly, it's just honoring your experience, honoring
where you're at, and letting them see you in those
vulnerable moments. You know. I don't get into everything with her,
but she sees the ebbs and flows that I go through.
She sees the work that I'm going through to become
this woman, to become this role model not only for
her but for my inner child, and to see that
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work I think is so important. If I'm always hiding
my emotions, then she puts me on this pedestal. It's like, well,
mom never has a bad day, Mom's never showing emotion.
Mom never gets angry. Then she doesn't know how to
express those things herself. So I need to be full
on Tammy around my kids too and let them see, Hey,
mom's feeling triggered right now, she needs to take a minute.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Yeah, I was actually listening to one of her podcasts
and someone and say like, I need to go hide
in the closet.
Speaker 5 (25:42):
I need to take a moment. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
She's like, that's how I deal with the crazy.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
But that's real, Like you need That's how we self regulate.
We need to take those moments for ourselves. And if
I can't model that for my kids, I'm not demonstrating
that for them, but I expect it of them. So
I just I let her see the real, authentic me,
and it's been really beautiful of how close that has
made us because she she can trust me now because
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I'm real with her. She feels safe aud me now
she didn't before.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
So I was just gonna ask, do you feel like
you're a different person than you were when this whole?
Speaker 5 (26:16):
Yes? You absolutely a shell of myself.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Like I was still a good mom and all of
those things, but I was sludging through my days and
putting on the happy face and all of those things,
and just like felt like I was like slowly dying inside,
like my spirit was like really unhappy. And for her
to see this version of me and to see the
work that I'm putting into my dreams, Like I'd tell
my kids like, yeah, go after your.
Speaker 5 (26:40):
Dreams and you know you can do anything. But if
I don't live that, like I'm a hypocrite.
Speaker 4 (26:47):
And so it's really important for them to see this
work that I'm doing, to see me hopping on the
podcast and all at the MIC's on the dinner t.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Was my mom doing, what's your mom doing? Yeah, now
you're like everywhere. They've got to be so very very
proud of you.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
My son is especially excited to come to the gym
and work out because he is he's planning his dream
is to be in the NFL someday and middle he's
all and he practices like he loves it so much.
Speaker 5 (27:13):
Yeah, he's very excited about that.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Well, Mindra has always been to have arms like him.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
I'm like, dang it.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
I was like, look at those amazing.
Speaker 5 (27:20):
How you can join us anytime?
Speaker 3 (27:22):
I know, can you get these? Like they're like you have.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Amazing the way but they're like sticks like yours are
amazingly formed and beautiful, which is so.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Funny because I used to hate them. I used to
see them man arms and so.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
Yeah, it's we all have our stories and I know, right.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Yeah, we all do that to ourselves. So how can
people get, you know, especially involved with not only getting
on your podcast, I know another true passion of yours
is speaking, so especially for those in our community.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
How can people get a hold of you? How can
they get on your show?
Speaker 4 (27:55):
Yeah? Us more about that. Yes, it can always find
me on social media. I'm always on your faceboo book
and Instagram, all of those things. But my website is
unscripted healingwi dot com and so you can find me there.
And if people want me to come speak, I mean
I can take literally anything and turn it into some
sort of inner child thing, you know, thinking about imposter
syndrome at your career or relationship stuff like, it all
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comes back to that for me. So I can spin
that in any way, and I get I'm very passionate
about that kind of stuff. So they can fill out
a little form to have me come speak, or just
send me an email if they're interested in being on
the podcast again, Like, I want anyone and everyone to
be on there and share their story.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
It doesn't have to be you know, some.
Speaker 4 (28:34):
Cool celebrity like Krista to be on my podcast.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
Oh god, not happening again.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
I just I love a story. Anyone that wants to.
Speaker 4 (28:41):
Feel seen and heard and share their story, there's a
place for you there and so and I just I
absolutely love that. So send me a DM, send me
an email, and I would love to connect.
Speaker 5 (28:50):
Oh, I think it's very powerful.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
And I love that you want to public speak as
well in the community.
Speaker 5 (28:57):
We feel like that's like the next platform. Yeah, you know,
I realized that.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
My message or what my purpose was was to get
the word out there, and so thank you for allowing
me this space to do that, and that it wasn't
sitting behind my computer and you know, just sending emails
or doing a little work like that. Like I know,
I'm supposed to be out there. And actually my third
grade self on the back of her school picture, which
was supposed to go to my sister and never did
(29:22):
apparently I found it a year ago and on the
back of it she wrote, make sure you let everyone
see me.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
I love that. So I was like oh okay.
Speaker 4 (29:30):
So now every time my ego wants to say no, Tammy,
play small, dim you're light, I think of that picture, like, no,
she said, I'm supposed to be out there. I'm supposed
to be sharing this message. I'm supposed to be helping
more people connect with her and her child. Get out
there and be seen.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Absolutely. Oh, and you're doing it.
Speaker 5 (29:45):
I'm trying.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
You got to be so proud of yourself.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
You gotta be like you got to remember to look
at yourself in the mirror and be like, gosh, dang it,
I'm worthy and look at me.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
I'm changing the world.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Every single day. And that's the hardest thing. Right We
go through some of the hardest things in our lives
thinking that this is going to be, this is it.
I can't do it anymore, I can't go through it anymore.
And for some reason, you know, we end up doing
that most of the times, getting through and then you realize, God,
I went through that to get to where I'm at today.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
Right. Yeah, I look back and even the from third
grade and having body dysmorphia, it all has led me
here to be able to help people in that situation,
whether they're coming into my gym now or they're on
the podcast. Like all of my childhood wounds, all of
it was meant to be able to be in this
space to help people feel seen in their story.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So interesting because like for me, losing my eye and
getting bullied all the time, like I took that and
to make it into comedy, which led me into theater,
which got me my.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
First job ever in radio. So that's how it happened
for me.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
Right, So now you just want to look back and
be like wow, like I'm almost grateful that happened, even
though it was a really hard time in life. Yeah,
it's all set up, it's all orchestrated, and it's so
beautiful to see how that happens. And I love helping
people connect the dots to why things happened to their
life because we are divinely guided and if you just
get quiet with yourself.
Speaker 5 (31:01):
Which is very hard to do. Yeah, it wasn't like that.
Speaker 4 (31:04):
Those answers are there, Yeah, breadcrumbs, those next steps, those
dreams are there.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Just take the time to you know, listen to yourself. Yeah,
you know, we don't ever do that, especially as moms.
We always put ourselves last, right, and dad's too I
mean it's not always always moms, but it's a very
true statement.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
We put our health last, we put our needs last.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
So if you're not taking care of yourself, you know
as a parent, yeah, our kids are losing out on
that absolutely.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
And that's where, like working out and taking care of
myself nutritionally, it became so important, like I have to
fill this cup and I'll let the overflow go to
my kids. But if I tip it over and I'm
not taking care of myself, like there is nothing left
for any of them, and I'm not showing up in
my best version. So I have to pour into me
and let that overflow go to everybody else.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Miss Tammy, I just love you so much, And once
again Tammy talks at the Unscripted Healing Podcast, an amazing
journey that you have been on again and now you're
going to be opening up a gema, which I'm super
proud of you, and just things are happening, You're gonna
be speaking and uh, you know, gosh, it brings me
joy to see the success that you're having in so
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many different levels because you deserve it, you know so well.
Speaker 4 (32:16):
And thank you for inspiring women like me and I said,
and the little girl within me and so many other
people to see the work that you're doing and getting
out there like that's it's very inspiring.
Speaker 5 (32:25):
And it gave me the courage to like, oh, she's
doing a podcast, Okay, I can do this.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Yeah, and now I'm on her podcasting a full circle moments.
Speaker 3 (32:33):
Girl, you keep doing your thing.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Well.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
I appreciate you, Tammy, thank you for my amazing roller
skating gift. Like if that's o ve you, I love
you until next time you come back again.
Speaker 5 (32:44):
Okay, I would love that. All right.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, ladies, I just want you to know we
have a very special woman in house today.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I had the pleasure.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Of meeting her years and years ago at a fitness club.
I was like, dang, girl, can I look like you someday?
And then we just started talking and getting to know
each other. And you just never know the reasons why
you will cross paths with someone else. And as you
all know, I'm a true believer in supporting lady bosses
and that is definitely who she is. Not only is
(00:44):
she an amazing mom, she's an amazing fitness guru, and
she's got an amazing heart, and she's resilient, she's fierce,
and she's been through life. And that is what she's
doing here today to help out so many, especially when
we are talking about trauma, especially when we were talking
about reading, the stigma of mental health and so much more.
(01:06):
Say hello to my beautiful friend, Tammy Schiltz. She is
the health and healing coach of Tammy talks unscripted healing
podcast and host soon to be Jim Owner, which I'm
so stoked about. And she's also a tremendous keynote speaker. Tammy,
it is so great to see you, my love.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Thank you so much for hamy and for making me
tea up before we even get started.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, first, I had to say you just made my
world come to a high level of happiness because when
you last invited me to be on your podcast to
talk about my own journey with trauma and sexual assaults,
we were talking about the one thing that made me
happy in life to distress myself, and you remembered.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
And I'm so honored that you did.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Tammy brought me a gift today and it is of
a beautiful and I kid you not, ladies. It is gorgeous,
a blinged out rollers Gate charm that I can put
on my neck like for a necklace.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Like that's so sweet and that you're remembered.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I needed to honor your inner child and I always
remember details like that. I just feel like I have
this weird, you know, sixth sense with people's in her
child and so like I have to do this for her,
so I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
It was very very sweet to you.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Let me first off say, I'm so stinking proud of you.
Speaker 5 (02:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Uh. And the success that you are having in your
personal life with business and with your podcast, I mean,
you're just skyrocketing and as a beautiful mom. I'm excited
to have you here today because that's what we're really
talking about, is getting through life and trying to heal
from the inside out when it comes to trauma.
Speaker 5 (02:42):
Why is this so important to you, Oh man, that's
such a loaded question.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
But my whole journey with diet and exercise and being
a dietician and getting into fitness, I always thought something
was wrong with me and that I was broken, and
this is why I couldn't figure it out and why
I always struggled with my weight. And once I started
to get that stuff quote unquote figured out, I.
Speaker 5 (03:05):
Realized it was never about that.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
And then I had all of these deeper childhood wounds
and I had this massive unworthiness wound that was impacting every.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Area of my life.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
It led into my career, it ed into my marriage,
the way I parented, the way I was just showing
up in the world and playing small.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
And so that's why you inspired me so much, was.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Like you're someone like stepping into their life, stepping into
their gifts, and why can't I do that? Even though
I felt it inside of me to be able to
do that, there was something always holding me back, and
it was this wound just constantly irritating me in a way.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, because again, when you're a child and you go
through like trauma, like many of us, grew up with
not sharing our feelings. And I think that's the biggest
issue right in today's culture of mental health, is that
we got to let kids know, especially that they have
a voice, yes.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Absolutely, and letting them be seen and letting them be heard,
and knowing that they matter and that they're worthy of
our time and energy. And so I'm very intentional about
that with my kids now.
Speaker 5 (04:05):
And even though I.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Had I'm one of those kids. I had a pretty
good childhood. You know, I have two parents and you
know they're still married. So when I look back, it
was really easy for me to disregard my childhood experience.
But I was one of those kids where it was
like a pebble in my shoe and it was just
these small what we kind of referred to as small
t traumas that was just in my shoe this whole
time and ended up creating this massive wound. And so
(04:29):
I wanted to give voice to people like me who
maybe didn't have the big in your face traumas but
realized they were still self sabotaging whether you know. For me,
I saw it when I was working with people in
terms of their nutrition being a dietician, I would see
them going back to old self sabotaging habits and behaviors
like gosh, like, I got to get to the root
of this. But that was me for so long too,
(04:52):
So I just kept seeing that playing out in my
life and everyone else's life, like I have got to
get to the root of.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
This, and that's hard, especially when you're talking about your
physical beauty and having insecurity about that. Oh yeah, I
know for myself, I grew up that way as well.
I was like, I was very not happy with the
way I looked like, being this awkward redhead with a
glass eye and just not feeling like beautiful, Like looking
(05:22):
at all these other girls on the cheerleading squad, I'm like, man, like,
what can I do? And it became almost like a
control thing. What's the one thing I can do is
control how skinny I am?
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Huh yep, That's usually where it starts. And that was
for me too. It was food. It was trying to
control food. And then I got to college and I
realized I couldn't control food, like the emotions that I
didn't want to feel, or my.
Speaker 5 (05:45):
Ego didn't want me to feel. We're too overwhelming.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
So I went the other extreme and I started binge eating,
where I was eating entire pizzas in my car, and
then I had a master's degree nutrition and I was
still doing that. I'm like, Okay, this is not a
knowledge problem, Like I had a lot of money for
this knowledge, and it's not translating into life. When I
feel triggered, when I'm emotionally vulnerable, I wanted to numb
that in any way possible, whether that was through exercising
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too much or binge eating, those are my go.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Tos because like it owned you no matter what.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
And my body just morphia started back in third grade
and I look back at pictures and I was a
normal week kid, but it was the comparison game, just
like you and I would look at my older sister
and everyone would comment about how tall and skinny she was, like, well,
I don't look like her, so there must be something
wrong with me.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Sure, And that message just.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Kept replaying out my entire life, or that I was
just too much, too.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Bold, right right, And that's really difficult too, and you
have to try to figure out, well, why why do
I feel this way?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
And for me, it took me a long time to
figure out why.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
And it was like if I felt if I was attractive,
that I was loved, yes, right, yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Well, and what you and I had talked about on
your episode was that has to come from with always
we keep searching outside of ourselves. And that was the
biggest lesson for me as well, was realizing that I
needed to love me. I needed to be able to
validate me and know that I'm worthy. Otherwise I would
keep searching outside of myself for it and always being disappointed.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Right yeah, because we're not doing it the ways that
we should be, right, right, the healthy ways of doing Yeah.
That when did you begin being able though, to talk
about your feelings, because I think that's a huge caveat
on beginning to heal.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Interestingly enough, it was almost ten years ago. I started
kind of a nutrition reset in a sense because I
was at my end.
Speaker 5 (07:38):
I felt awful.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
That was my rock bottom moment was my daughter was
turning tow and I was at our birthday party searching
for all the clothes. I mean, I can just remember seeing,
you know, my bed full of every outfit because I
felt awful and fat and ugly and everything I tried on.
And I remember not having a single picture with her
at her birthday party. And that was a rock bottom
moment for me because I swore to myself I would
(07:59):
not be that mom.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
And that was a huge turning point.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
And so when I kind of started on this, Okay,
I'm I'm doing this, I'm surrendering to this process, and.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
I'm a dietitian, so like I just needed to get.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Out of my own way, and I opened up about
it and I started sharing that on social media. I
mean it was basically Facebook at that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
The scariest place to be to oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
And I remember it was like Confessions of the Detoxing
Dietitian because you know, you don't do detoxes and fasts
and things like that as a dietician. You know, it
was very looked down on, but I was like, I
need to do this for me, and I can't care
about what anyone else is going to say about it
and think about it. And it's been ten years and
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I'm in the best
shape of my life, and I'm still doing the same
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things that I did ten years ago because I took
that one like leap of faith inspired action and said,
I don't care about anyone else.
Speaker 5 (08:48):
I have to do this for me.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
I have to do this so I can be the
mother that I need to be to my daughter at
the time, and now I have a son as well.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Yeah, I mean they look up to you, and that's
that's not like could we get it any you know harder?
And then I think a lot of us talk about
that too on the mom squad. Is you know mom guilt, oh,
dad guilt, trying to not you know, don't enforce that on,
you know, don't judge their parents.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
But it is hard, I.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Mean because now I realize I'm the person that I
am today thinking about ways that my parents were while
now seeing myself.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Oh, I'm like that, you know, And then you got
to like be like, oh, now I.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
Get it now.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
I understand why my parents were so hard on me
or loved me or protected me from this is because
of you know, maybe something they went through or.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Absolutely And I think that's why I'm so passionate about
in her Child work is because it just it helps
you make sense of all that, like, oh my gosh,
I see it now. I get it now. And it
wasn't that they didn't love me. They just didn't know
how to show it in the way that I needed it.
And so it's allowed me to heal on so many levels,
not just my relationship with myself, but with my kids,
with my parents, and it's just been such a beautiful journey.
(09:54):
And I know the term and you know, talking about
trauma and those things can seem kind of scary people,
but to me, it's been the most beautiful journey back
to myself.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Right when we talk about rock bottom, what does that
say to you?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Just an absolute hopelessness. And again I was there just
physically when my daughter was two. But then I had
that same moment surprise surprise during COVID A lot of them,
there is a wave of people that had what I
refer to as like a spiritual awakening at that time,
like we all hit a rock bottom or saw things
(10:32):
like once you see it, you can on see it.
And that to me was it was like someone opened
the box about my marriage and I wanted to close
that box up so fast and pretend I didn't see it.
And because I grew up, or you don't separate, you
don't get divorced, you know, until death do you part
as miserable as you are, whatever, that's.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
What you do.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
And we our marriage looked good on paper and we
didn't fight, but there were emotional needs that weren't being met,
and I just slowly felt myself kind of withering away
and not knowing this woman that's inside me. So to
hear you say all these amazing things at the beginning,
like oh wow, really like that's me, Like it's still
hard to hear that five years later, Like no, I
(11:11):
have done some work to find this woman. She was
always in there, but I just I silenced her and
I suppressed her and I denied who she was. And
so that was that was a rock bottom moment because
I I saw it, but I had no idea how
I was gonna get through it. That was hard because
it was very isolating because you don't want to tell
your friends about it. You know, It's it's a scary
(11:32):
moment to realize if I take a step, I'm going
to blow out my entire life and not just mine,
my families.
Speaker 5 (11:38):
Your families.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, just like you, I've been in that same boat.
It's it's a very very hard thing to deal with mentally,
do I do I not?
Speaker 5 (11:47):
How is this going to affect?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Like you said, I don't believe that I would have
been able to go through with that decision unless Gia
told me.
Speaker 5 (11:57):
You know, she came up to me and said, you know,
I know you.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Dad tried very hard and I want you to be happy,
so it's time.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
I'm okay if you get divorced.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
And because I couldn't, I couldn't have done it without that,
I just think I would have lived my life with
this enormous guilt right right, And.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
Really like that's what she needed for you to be
who you are, to be the mom that she needed,
right right, And that was a huge eye opening thing
for me as well, Like to think that I'm not
giving my kids childhood wounds by staying in this and
not showing up as the mom they deserve, Like, I'm
absolutely creating childhood wounds right now. Are they going to
get some as they go through a separation, Yes, But
can I, as I'm healing, help them yes. And that
(12:37):
has been one of the most beautiful journeys is healing
with my kids over these last couple of years. And
my daughter was actually on the podcast and we were
kind of talking about this but not talking about it
because we hadn't really made it public yet, but just
the healing that we've done together, and she said right
before that she's like, Mom, this was this is really
hard at first, but I can tell that this was
the best thing for us all. And I was like, oh,
thank goodness, goodness, yeah, because she now sees me, yeah,
(13:01):
being who I am and being authentic and being vulnerable
and all of the stuff that I would tell her
to do. Sure, So like, I can't be a hypocrite
and telling her to do those things and then I'm
not living my authentic truth. That's not okay because my
inner child's like, woll whoa, whoa, what about us?
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Right, Let's not do that.
Speaker 5 (13:18):
Let's just you know, crawl up in a ball and
not do that.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
But yeah, like you said, it and it's it's all
different levels too that you're feeling. It's not only you
changing into this brand new woman with this new life,
trying to figure out what that's going to be all
about them being a single mom with your children that's
a whole other story. So yeah, it's a lot of transformation, right,
(13:42):
And I happen.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
To do all of it at the same time, Like
I'm going to completely tear down my business and rebrand
and start a podcast and all at the same time.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah, I know, Well, I love it because that's what
you know, being a badass is all about a lady boss.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
So let's get into that. You know, you were definitely
building an empire.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
First, talk about your podcast with us, Oh Tammy Talks.
Speaker 5 (14:05):
Yes, I love it so much. It's such an outlet
for me.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
But I love sharing stories, and that's it all started
with me sharing my story. I saw how that helped
people connect with me and resonate with me, but mostly
how it helped them feel seen in their own story.
And so I have a few friends like when are
you gonna start a podcast? When you to start a pockast?
And I just kept putting it off, putting it off,
and all of a sudden, like you know what, I
need to do this. I just felt like there's something
(14:33):
in me that I need to get this message out
there and help wake people up that we all have
trauma and it's okay to look at it. Actually it's
necessary to look at it so that way you can
heal and step into your gifts, step into your purpose,
show up the way you want to in your everyday life.
And so I just I love having just everyday people
on there just sharing their story, because everybody has a
(14:55):
story and helping them connect the dots back into their
childhood is is the most rewarding thing because then you
can see like, oh there always was love, or helping
them find again that journey back to themselves and realizing
it all comes from within and your inner child only
needs love from you.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Yeah, yeah, I remember.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
I was so you were the first podcasts that I've
ever or in general platform that I've ever gone onto
to be that in depth with. I was like, WHOA,
Well you made me feel very comfortable number one, and
I think that's so important, Like I don't know, I
just immediately had a connection with you in the Yeah,
that's just you know, we we we went on this
(15:34):
journey together. But I think it's very helpful as we
both know anyone that's been through you know, ups and
downs in live being able to talk and that's legitimately
your company.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
That is what we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Tammy Talks, you know, the unscripted healing podcast is that
you bring people on UH to have these conversations with
Do you feel you always gain something from each interview?
Speaker 5 (15:58):
Every single time? Every single time?
Speaker 4 (16:00):
It just like again, it just feels like a beautiful
gift for me to be able to receive that from people,
to know that people feel comfortable, and I mean, that's
to me one of the greatest gifts that people can
feel safe in my energy and knowing that they'll feel
seen and heard like it's such a beautiful gift and
I love it so much. I never thought that it
would again two years ago, this was not even on
(16:23):
the radar, but I love it so.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
How many episodes are we at right now?
Speaker 5 (16:26):
I am about to record episode fifty.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Ah, it's just crazy. Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
I might actually have my son on. He's been wanting
to come on.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
He's eight years old and he's just he's such a beautiful,
sensitive soul and I just feel like he has so
much wisdom to share. Sure you know that his sister's
been on there twice, so he's like, when do I
get to be on the podcast?
Speaker 5 (16:44):
Like I think fifty you think if we're going to
celebrate with you.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
But that's so sweet. That is so sweet. And also
Kevin floor to see you.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Yeah, Khalarian, I see is now on your podcast, which
will like continue right.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
Yes, it's like a new partnership there.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Yes, I helped him find little Kevkev, but it's his
inner child.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
I love that he Okay, I like little kem keV.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
I call him Kate Doug. Yeah, he's probably gonna get
very confused. I like that you helped him get there.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Hum well, it was so great because he was talking
about his childhood and the things that he loved and
he's still doing those things every day, and so you
can tell like this man is just a joyful person
and he has fun. But it's because he still does
the things his in her child always loved. He never
disconnected from that. So as we were just talking it all,
a sudden came up in the episode and I was like, dude,
you are totally connected to your inner child, like this
(17:29):
is fantastic and so yeah, you know, he's little kee
keV keviv.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I always say he's one of the funniest guys that
I've met. And but yeah, very serious about helping resistingma
mental health out here, which is tremendous. Let's get into
something as well when it comes to your business, and
I think this is tremendously amazing and powerful because what
you've done with the work the inside of you also
(17:54):
has now you know, attracted the outside of you.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
And I'm talking about your fitness.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
And what now that you're going to eventually be skyrocketing
out to being wonderful. Tell everyone what's going on with
your new business.
Speaker 5 (18:07):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (18:08):
Yeah again a month two months ago, did not even
know this was on the radar, but it just you
ask and you shall receive. I was like, I need
something big to change my life. I'm a single mom
over here, and like I just kept praying and all
the things, and all of a sudden, I was like, hey,
you want to you want to open a gym?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:25):
What yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
I do.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
I mean everyone always jokes like that I live at
the gym anyway, Like, well, now I might as well.
Speaker 5 (18:33):
So, but that has always been my outlet.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
I mean for a while, I had a very not
for a while, very long time, I had a very
unhealthy relationship with exercise, to the point where I would
do it to exhaustion or injury. But over the last
few years, I have really healed my relationship with my body,
and now I do it as a way like I
just want to see what me and my body are
capable of. I love that, and I want to honor
my body through nutrition because I know what my body
has been through, what I have put it through, and
(18:57):
so I want to show up for it. I want
to bring the resource so I can build this beautiful house,
and so I'm mindful of what I put into it,
but I also know I need to honor it by
moving it to move my emotions.
Speaker 5 (19:07):
Like that's such a powerful way.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I you know, doing this healing work is all these
emotions that are coming up as I'm healing, anger and
rage and whatever. I get so much of that out
through my workouts. I see it as a powerful outlet
for me to I mean meditate in a sense, but
to really release some stored trauma, some stored energy, and
so I wish more and more people could see it
(19:30):
as so much more than a workout. It's so much
more than work out because it's really great.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
For your brain and your anxiety, right, everything that comes
with that.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
And when I think of it from an inner child perspective, like,
it's a way that I keep a promise to my
inner child.
Speaker 5 (19:44):
I'm going to show up for you. I'm going to
take care of you.
Speaker 4 (19:47):
And so that helps me stay consistent at the gym
because I want to keep that promise to her because
I know what it's like. I see it in my
kid's eyes when I tell them I'll do something and then.
Speaker 5 (19:55):
I forget and then I don't do it.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
I see that disappointment in their eyes, and I'm like,
I don't ever want my inner child to feel that
if I'm not showing up for her and broke a promise.
Speaker 5 (20:03):
So that's part of working out.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
Why I'm able to be so consistent is because it's
the way that I honor her and a way that
I honor my body.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Oh I love that. Yeah good, it's good.
Speaker 5 (20:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:13):
Now I get to really like help people in my
own little.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Environment to do that.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
So what is the new gym called it?
Speaker 4 (20:18):
Is called F forty five and on the west side
of Madison off Mineral Point Road, and we're hoping to
open at the end of the month here, so.
Speaker 5 (20:24):
Oh my, oh my, gosh.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Well, and also what is great about this is that
you're giving a lot of like men and women and
girls and boys an opportunity because when you're talking about
the insecurity of body and having eating disorders, I mean,
we know that's.
Speaker 5 (20:40):
A huge, huge health scare.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
And to be able to find a way to you know,
heal yourself inside but through the outside and bring those
two together, I mean, you're walking that life, right.
Speaker 5 (20:52):
I know someone had said once like you're in your
own walking billboard. We are. I guess I am, because
I really have.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
And it started that way, like I realized I was
worthy of feeling good, and that worthiness started to trickle
into a career that I felt worthy of, a relationship
I felt worthy of, and just like I don't know,
I'm worthy of this amazing life and stepping into these
gifts and this purpose and so being able to help
people wherever they're at on their fitness journey, on their
health journey, on their healing journey, knowing that it all
(21:19):
plays together because otherwise nutrition and fitness can be just
a band aid if we're not actually healing the wounds. Yeah,
and so I am very passionate about using all of
those things to heal all of us, the whole person.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
So good mind, goodness.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
I think a lot of times too, we try to
not let people know those things about us, ye, or
there's shame put on that well, and.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
I think that's where our ego wants us to stay,
because as long as we're stuck in the shame cycle,
we stay silent about it, and then ego gets to
stay in control.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
And by speaking about it, you help.
Speaker 4 (21:54):
Validate your inner child's experience where she feels seen and
heard and validated by you knowing that there isn't any
guilt and shame about it. And that's why I love
working with people, whether it's one on one or in groups,
is to help them see the things that we did.
And this was such a beautiful example on your episode.
When you think about the situations that you got in,
like you could see how this was meeting a need
(22:15):
maybe to feel loved or to feel seen, but that
was ego was trying to meet and need it It
was with the best of intentions, but it just took
us down some really unfortunate paths. And when people can
start to see that, they start to release the guilt
and the shame, Like, oh my gosh, I can see
why I was eating entire.
Speaker 5 (22:32):
Pizzas in my car now, yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:34):
My ego didn't want me to feel the pain of
rejection from my high school boyfriend or whatever it was,
and so I was able to.
Speaker 5 (22:40):
Release so much of that.
Speaker 4 (22:42):
And I think that's so important for people to be
able to work through their stories in that way and
release that shame.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
So interesting that you brought up the boyfriend, because the
way that I realized my connection with food was, like
I said, the fear of abandonment. Yes, I know, we
talked about that. That's one of my issues in life,
and trying to attract this boy, right, like, how can
I get this boy to like me more than just
(23:07):
a friend, And that's what it was. I'm like, I
just felt like, oh, if I'm skinny, then I'll be
looked as attractive and wanted and loved and not abandoned.
And all those had to do with just me feeling
abandoned and just wanting to be loved and doing it
the wrong way.
Speaker 4 (23:26):
But again, ego thinks that's the best way. But yet
you're inner child's over here, like no, no, no, I just
need you to love me, Krista, like just authentic us
and you know, like all the beautiful gifts that we
have and the quirkiness and all the things that make
us unique, Like you're in your child just wants that
from you, but ego blocks us from that. And that's
why I'm so passionate because I feel like all of
our gifts are.
Speaker 5 (23:47):
Within our inner child.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
He or she knows what you're capable of, what your
potential is, but ego is afraid that if you show
people that, what if they reject you, what if they
abandon you?
Speaker 5 (23:56):
If you're actually real, we're actually vulnerable, And that's who
we need to be. That's who in her child wants.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Us to be. And that's Oh man, how wes say?
This work is so simple? But it's not easy, Like
you can lay it out, Oh, you're in a child,
just needed to do X, Y and Z, but your
egos like, yeah, I got thirty years of evidence to
say otherwise, I tell you why.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
That is a very true statement.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
So being this phenomenal lady boss in our community, helping
so many with you know, getting through with you know,
healing themselves from the inside out now with this amazing
podcast and soon to be amazing gym to helping out
so many. What would you say to to getting through
in life, especially for like your daughter, What would you
(24:45):
say to her? Because right we are we are put
on this pedestal in front of our children, and of
course she's she's seen you now through a lot of
things in your life, you know, with the divorce that
that tell tell us how do we get through?
Speaker 4 (24:59):
Oh man, it's honestly, it's just honoring your experience, honoring
where you're at, and letting them see you in those
vulnerable moments. You know. I don't get into everything with her,
but she sees the ebbs and flows that I go through.
She sees the work that I'm going through to become
this woman, to become this role model not only for
her but for my inner child, and to see that
(25:19):
work I think is so important. If I'm always hiding
my emotions, then she puts me on this pedestal. It's like, well,
mom never has a bad day, Mom's never showing emotion.
Mom never gets angry. Then she doesn't know how to
express those things herself. So I need to be full
on Tammy around my kids too and let them see, Hey,
mom's feeling triggered right now, she needs to take a minute.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Yeah, I was actually listening to one of her podcasts
and someone and say like, I need to go hide
in the closet.
Speaker 5 (25:42):
I need to take a moment. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
She's like, that's how I deal with the crazy.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
But that's real, Like you need That's how we self regulate.
We need to take those moments for ourselves. And if
I can't model that for my kids, I'm not demonstrating
that for them, but I expect it of them. So
I just I let her see the real, authentic me,
and it's been really beautiful of how close that has
made us because she she can trust me now because
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I'm real with her. She feels safe aud me now
she didn't before.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
So I was just gonna ask, do you feel like
you're a different person than you were when this whole?
Speaker 5 (26:16):
Yes? You absolutely a shell of myself.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Like I was still a good mom and all of
those things, but I was sludging through my days and
putting on the happy face and all of those things,
and just like felt like I was like slowly dying inside,
like my spirit was like really unhappy. And for her
to see this version of me and to see the
work that I'm putting into my dreams, Like I'd tell
my kids like, yeah, go after your.
Speaker 5 (26:40):
Dreams and you know you can do anything. But if
I don't live that, like I'm a hypocrite.
Speaker 4 (26:47):
And so it's really important for them to see this
work that I'm doing, to see me hopping on the
podcast and all at the MIC's on the dinner t.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Was my mom doing, what's your mom doing? Yeah, now
you're like everywhere. They've got to be so very very
proud of you.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
My son is especially excited to come to the gym
and work out because he is he's planning his dream
is to be in the NFL someday and middle he's
all and he practices like he loves it so much.
Speaker 5 (27:13):
Yeah, he's very excited about that.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Well, Mindra has always been to have arms like him.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
I'm like, dang it.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
I was like, look at those amazing.
Speaker 5 (27:20):
How you can join us anytime?
Speaker 3 (27:22):
I know, can you get these? Like they're like you have.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Amazing the way but they're like sticks like yours are
amazingly formed and beautiful, which is so.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Funny because I used to hate them. I used to
see them man arms and so.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
Yeah, it's we all have our stories and I know, right.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Yeah, we all do that to ourselves. So how can
people get, you know, especially involved with not only getting
on your podcast, I know another true passion of yours
is speaking, so especially for those in our community.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
How can people get a hold of you? How can
they get on your show?
Speaker 4 (27:55):
Yeah? Us more about that. Yes, it can always find
me on social media. I'm always on your faceboo book
and Instagram, all of those things. But my website is
unscripted healingwi dot com and so you can find me there.
And if people want me to come speak, I mean
I can take literally anything and turn it into some
sort of inner child thing, you know, thinking about imposter
syndrome at your career or relationship stuff like, it all
(28:15):
comes back to that for me. So I can spin
that in any way, and I get I'm very passionate
about that kind of stuff. So they can fill out
a little form to have me come speak, or just
send me an email if they're interested in being on
the podcast again, Like, I want anyone and everyone to
be on there and share their story.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
It doesn't have to be you know, some.
Speaker 4 (28:34):
Cool celebrity like Krista to be on my podcast.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
Oh god, not happening again.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
I just I love a story. Anyone that wants to.
Speaker 4 (28:41):
Feel seen and heard and share their story, there's a
place for you there and so and I just I
absolutely love that. So send me a DM, send me
an email, and I would love to connect.
Speaker 5 (28:50):
Oh, I think it's very powerful.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
And I love that you want to public speak as
well in the community.
Speaker 5 (28:57):
We feel like that's like the next platform. Yeah, you know,
I realized that.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
My message or what my purpose was was to get
the word out there, and so thank you for allowing
me this space to do that, and that it wasn't
sitting behind my computer and you know, just sending emails
or doing a little work like that. Like I know,
I'm supposed to be out there. And actually my third
grade self on the back of her school picture, which
was supposed to go to my sister and never did
(29:22):
apparently I found it a year ago and on the
back of it she wrote, make sure you let everyone
see me.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
I love that. So I was like oh okay.
Speaker 4 (29:30):
So now every time my ego wants to say no, Tammy,
play small, dim you're light, I think of that picture, like, no,
she said, I'm supposed to be out there. I'm supposed
to be sharing this message. I'm supposed to be helping
more people connect with her and her child. Get out
there and be seen.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Absolutely. Oh, and you're doing it.
Speaker 5 (29:45):
I'm trying.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
You got to be so proud of yourself.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
You gotta be like you got to remember to look
at yourself in the mirror and be like, gosh, dang it,
I'm worthy and look at me.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
I'm changing the world.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Every single day. And that's the hardest thing. Right We
go through some of the hardest things in our lives
thinking that this is going to be, this is it.
I can't do it anymore, I can't go through it anymore.
And for some reason, you know, we end up doing
that most of the times, getting through and then you realize, God,
I went through that to get to where I'm at today.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
Right. Yeah, I look back and even the from third
grade and having body dysmorphia, it all has led me
here to be able to help people in that situation,
whether they're coming into my gym now or they're on
the podcast. Like all of my childhood wounds, all of
it was meant to be able to be in this
space to help people feel seen in their story.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So interesting because like for me, losing my eye and
getting bullied all the time, like I took that and
to make it into comedy, which led me into theater,
which got me my.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
First job ever in radio. So that's how it happened
for me.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
Right, So now you just want to look back and
be like wow, like I'm almost grateful that happened, even
though it was a really hard time in life. Yeah,
it's all set up, it's all orchestrated, and it's so
beautiful to see how that happens. And I love helping
people connect the dots to why things happened to their
life because we are divinely guided and if you just
get quiet with yourself.
Speaker 5 (31:01):
Which is very hard to do. Yeah, it wasn't like that.
Speaker 4 (31:04):
Those answers are there, Yeah, breadcrumbs, those next steps, those
dreams are there.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Just take the time to you know, listen to yourself. Yeah,
you know, we don't ever do that, especially as moms.
We always put ourselves last, right, and dad's too I
mean it's not always always moms, but it's a very
true statement.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
We put our health last, we put our needs last.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
So if you're not taking care of yourself, you know
as a parent, yeah, our kids are losing out on
that absolutely.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
And that's where, like working out and taking care of
myself nutritionally, it became so important, like I have to
fill this cup and I'll let the overflow go to
my kids. But if I tip it over and I'm
not taking care of myself, like there is nothing left
for any of them, and I'm not showing up in
my best version. So I have to pour into me
and let that overflow go to everybody else.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Miss Tammy, I just love you so much, And once
again Tammy talks at the Unscripted Healing Podcast, an amazing
journey that you have been on again and now you're
going to be opening up a gema, which I'm super
proud of you, and just things are happening, You're gonna
be speaking and uh, you know, gosh, it brings me
joy to see the success that you're having in so
(32:12):
many different levels because you deserve it, you know so well.
Speaker 4 (32:16):
And thank you for inspiring women like me and I said,
and the little girl within me and so many other
people to see the work that you're doing and getting
out there like that's it's very inspiring.
Speaker 5 (32:25):
And it gave me the courage to like, oh, she's
doing a podcast, Okay, I can do this.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Yeah, and now I'm on her podcasting a full circle moments.
Speaker 3 (32:33):
Girl, you keep doing your thing.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Well.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
I appreciate you, Tammy, thank you for my amazing roller
skating gift. Like if that's o ve you, I love
you until next time you come back again.
Speaker 5 (32:44):
Okay, I would love that. All right.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
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