Andrea did everything she thought a successful woman was supposed to do: go to college, get a job, get married, and start a family. When she had all the things she thought should make her happy, she realized - she wasn't. As she started asking why, multiple things converged for her.As an employee, she heard a whisper that, if she stayed in corporate, she wouldn't live up to her full potential. She followed that whisper and eventually left corporate to start a business helping women transcend their inner fears so they can make the impact in the world they were born to make.As a mom, she learned she's a cycle breaker, here to heal from old emotional patterns and shift away from the control-based parenting style seen in generations before us.
Today Andrea Andree teaches us how to use our own engery to "Break the Cylce" Many times as moms we can get stuck in our minds when it comes to wanting to reach further goals in life outside of being a loving mother. We will learn how she helps moms to reach their goals, how to change past habits, and most of all how to re-connect with our energetic bodies. We are so excited to bring Andrea's expertise to other moms!
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-andree/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsgonequantum/
Today Andrea Andree teaches us how to use our own engery to "Break the Cylce" Many times as moms we can get stuck in our minds when it comes to wanting to reach further goals in life outside of being a loving mother. We will learn how she helps moms to reach their goals, how to change past habits, and most of all how to re-connect with our energetic bodies. We are so excited to bring Andrea's expertise to other moms!
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-andree/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsgonequantum/
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the mads Own Mom Squad podcast, a production
of iHeartRadio. Hard working, real mama's having real conversations. Now,
sit back, relax, and get ready to talk mom life
with Christa and her squad.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Krina.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
As always, it's so fabulous to see you, my dear friend.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
How have you been. I mean I've been I've been good.
You've been good, I've been good.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Well you on.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You just got back from a fabulous vacation with Dollywood,
Dollywood Dollywood.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
I didn't get to meet the Dolly parton, but I
got to see her castle essentially.
Speaker 4 (00:34):
I mean her like legacy. I mean, she's amazing, isn't
it amazing?
Speaker 5 (00:39):
I mean you have connections to Pigeon Forge where this.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Yeah, so my dad used to live in Severeville, Okay, so,
and then he also had an art gallery and Pigeon Forge.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
And that place is just amazing. It's like Wisconsin's els.
It really is in Tennessee.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
It's in Tennessee, so it's got a little southern by
uh huh.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I feel like people are so friendly. That was one
of the things I was really taken back.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
So, I mean, if you're.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Looking for family friendly, clean vacation spot, up in the
Smoki where the air is so crisp. Man, I was
just like breathing in the air.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
It was great. Air's great stay away from the homemade
moonshine that.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Oh, I did see a lot of a lot.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
I did say, are you sure you didn't see a
lot of moms?
Speaker 4 (01:18):
I put one back because that's what we do sometimes
we meet. So, man, it was great. It felt good
to get away. But also the kids are a little nutty.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Okay, you know, I kind of cat back, and I
was like, it's time for school.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
I love you guys. It has a lot of time.
It is time and a lot of time together.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Well, I'm really excited about today's guests, and you know,
to all of our listeners, you do not want to
miss out because we have a fabulous lady boss. Let
me get into her bio because it really touched me
as far as women empowerment, and she's a mom herself.
So this fabulous guest did everything that she thought a
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successful woman was supposed to do.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
I remember being taught this, go to college, get a job,
but then you get married, then you start a family, right,
that's those are the steps.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
When she had all the things she thought should make
her happy, She sat back and realized.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
You know what I'm not. I'm not fulfilled.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
As she started asking why, multiple things then converged for her.
As an employee, she heard a whisper that if she
stayed in corporate she wouldn't live up to her full potential.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
How many of us have been at work and sat
there and like, gosh, why am I here?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Right?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So she followed that whisper and eventually left corporate to
start a business helping women transcend their interferes so that
they can make the impact in the world that they
were born to make. And like I mentioned as a mom,
she learned she's a cycle breaker, which I'm so excited
to learn what that is. And she's here to help
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those with old emotional patterns and shift away from the
control based parent style seen in generations before us. As
you know, as many of us are going through that
as parents.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
I'm so excited to introduce Andrea Andre.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
She is the spiritual empowerment coach and we are so
delighted to have you.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Hello.
Speaker 6 (03:15):
Hello, yeah, yeah, Well we're super excited because we have
a mutual friend and we just had her on the
beautiful MJ Reiners herself.
Speaker 7 (03:26):
Absolutely, yeah, Yes, I love MJ. We can talk energy,
we can geek out for hours.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yes, And I think it's really important when it comes
to energy work. If you've never had it before, you're
gonna want to try it. But a lot of people
have not heard of this particular type of teachings that
you do, So why don't you, first, you know, kind
of give us a basis of what a spiritual coach is.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
Absolutely yeah, And it's funny that you asked us, because
this has been one of the hardest things for me,
is to put words into a feeling like what is
this that.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I'm here to do?
Speaker 7 (04:00):
So when I think of spiritual empowerment coach, for me,
spirituality is who are you here to be at the
highest level.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
So a lot of people think authentic cell for your
highest self? Who are you here to be?
Speaker 7 (04:11):
And how can you work with the laws of the
universe to make that happen? Because we know that we're
all here creating our own world. Basically, the blow of
attraction of the energy you put out is what you're
bringing back to you and so I like to help
people understand that so they can not become or not
feel like victims of their own lives and understand how
they can actually be in control of how people treat
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them and what sorts of opportunities they attract. So for me,
that's the spiritual part and a little bit of the
empowerment part too, where I really want people to feel
like they can go after the life that they were
born to live. Basically, we all have these little nudges
and these whispers and these little glimpses of I think
I should be doing this, or maybe I should be
doing that, And I want people to know those glimpses
(04:55):
are for them. Those aren't just random things that they
you know, other people get to follow their dreams, but
they don't.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
But those glimpses are for them and.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
Their breadcrumbs to what they're here to do and who
they're here to be. And so I really want to
bring that out of people.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
That's so interesting to me.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Love it right, you know, because a lot of us
want to still do certain things. You know, even at
you know, my age going to be forty eight soon,
there's still more that I want to do.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And sometimes you know, the.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Fear the unknown can cause you anxiety and hold yourself
and like you said, you help people to get.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
That out of the way, because those are the blocked Yep,
you know when we have that fear based.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Thought, which we're I feel like we're taught at.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
A young age, right, we kind of fear that we
go with the flow. I love the world that you
know you're talking about that we create because I you know,
I'm a huge believer in all that. I mean, I
studied law of attraction for so long. I mean that
stuffs real.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
So when it comes to the coaching, we're also interested
in the term that you have used before that pertains too,
especially our mom's out there cycle breaker.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
What is this all about?
Speaker 5 (06:04):
And okay, wait, you've now said this twice and I
keep thinking you're saying psycho breaker, but it's actually cycle right. No,
I know you're not, but I keep hearing that, and
I'm like, I want to know both.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
How do we bring that psycho.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
That's a different that's a different another episode.
Speaker 7 (06:21):
I think the psycho is going up, actually go through
this process, not going down cycle psycho.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
Yes, that's all about that.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, so anything about cycles.
Speaker 7 (06:32):
I think about parenting styles and how parenting styles tend
to get passed down from generation to generation and so
some people talk about the woman and the worth and
how women were supposed to put ourselves aside and we're
supposed to do all the things for other people. So
that's one cycle that has gotten passed down for me.
The one I've been more working through is this command
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and control style parenting where when I grew up, my
feelings didn't matter. It was really you know, I had
to listen to my parents. I couldn't challenge authority. They
yelled at me, they instilled fear, and so I followed by.
I was afraid of getting in trouble, and so I
lost all sense of who I'm here to be and
my own inner authority.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
And that's not who I wanted to be as a parent.
Speaker 7 (07:19):
I wanted to be this compassionate parent where I supported
my kid's emotions and I supported who they're here to
be and didn't just try to instill my own values
onto them and this whole idea of what we think
we're supposed to be to fit into society.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
And so it was a shift, and I didn't want
to yell at them.
Speaker 7 (07:38):
I didn't want to make them listen to me and
just blindly follow all the things that I said and
so I had to.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I call it break the cycle of how I was taught.
Speaker 7 (07:47):
And how I was raised as a parent and parent
completely differently, which involved a lot of emotional healing and
trauma healing that I had to do because it gets
stored in our body. And so I've seen this term
on social media, and I thought it might be interesting
for your audience because a lot of people that I attract,
they're also moms.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Not all of them are moms, but a lot of them.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
They just inherently know they're here to parent differently, and
they just might not really know what that means or
what that looks like or why.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
They have that feeling.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
And so it's probably because you're a cycle breaker if
you've never heard that term.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
You're here to break all of.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
The patterns that we're taught from your parents to you,
and their parents to them and everyone before them.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yeah, and cycle cycle breaking. It's not necessarily bad things, right,
you know, because I think about my own upbringing, and
my parents were so relaxed with us in a lot
of ways, like oh your six sure, stay home, Oh
you want to quit piano?
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Sure?
Speaker 5 (08:45):
You know they were really they were kind of like
the mister Roger type parents, which I you know, I
look at that now and I'm like, oh, you should
have probably said to me, like give it six more months, kiddo,
you know. And I'm actually a very different parent.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
I'm not.
Speaker 5 (08:59):
I have that element that you know, you've met my
mom crystall like she's just so gentle in that way,
and I have a lot of that in me. But
then I'm like, I want to break that cycle of
just being okay with you know everything, you know, And
so that's interesting to even look at it in both ways.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
So that's interesting because you are you as a human
are very relaxed, Like I don't see Karna if she's
handling something difficult, I don't see like the anxiety, her
getting upset. But you're very vocal at the same time,
so you're a strong woman that way.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
But you are similar to you know, like your mom.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
I can see that that you're just always very happy.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Yeah, yeah, I just it's so interesting to look at
motherhood in such in that cycle way. But yeah, so
that's interesting. I'm so intrigued by you kind of touched
on this a little bit, but like, how did you
actually come into this path and go down it?
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Because there's a.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Lot of people that are interested, but they don't really
I don't decide to make it a life occupation.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Absolutely for me.
Speaker 7 (10:06):
The mom part in particular was after having kids, and
it was my daughter. She's my oldest, she's nine right now.
So it started happening around the time she was one.
She was moving and grooving and getting into things around
the house, and I realized I was like a freak.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
I was yelling, I was controlling. I like the psycho.
We're gonna say psycho.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
In some cases, and there comes out there it.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Came out, and I was like, where, you know, the
consequence did not fit.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
There was no crime, but if we use those words,
like the consequence did not fit the crime. She was
just being a normal one year old and here I
was showing these incredibly controlling patterns.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
I was yelling, I was screaming when things didn't go
my way.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
And so I had a moment where I realized that
wasn't who I wanted to be, that wasn't how I
wanted to parent my kids. And I didn't know necessarily
how to get out of it, but there was just
this idea. Someone asked me, how did you know that
there was even a different possibility available because most people
they just assume they're yellers and they're always going to
be yellers.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
And I really don't have an answer to that question.
Speaker 7 (11:10):
I just think that because it was my path and
my thing to learn, there was this new idea that
came and was born in me and.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Helped me realize that this isn't who I wanted to be.
Speaker 7 (11:21):
And so I believe that when you're ready, the resources
also start appearing, and so I started getting these ideas
of conscious parenting courses would come into my play. And
that's also how I got into energy work. Kind of separately,
I started getting really curious about understanding energy, and so
understanding energy is where I learned how we store our
trauma patterns and how they show up. It's really never
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about the kid, it's really the kid is just poking
at an old pain that was never allowed to be
seen or released.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And so that shift helped me just learn more and more.
Speaker 7 (11:55):
About how to So I'm almost entirely self healed. I
and for me, a lot of people say, well, what
is your healing modality? I'm like, I just feel my
feelings and I breathe really it's that simple. But what
I realized in going down this path was I have
a choice. A lot of people talk about the pregnant pause,
(12:16):
like just pause before you yell at your kids, and
so I would pause, I would say I'm not supposed
to yell at them right now, and then I would yell.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And so for me, I needed more than the pregnant pause.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
And so that's where I learned to just take a
moment and feel into my body and actually breathe into
that emotion that was coming up as wanting to be
yelled at, and that I was actually able to diminish
the pain over time, not just pause and like will
power my way through it, but actually not even feel
the need to yell anymore because I learned to just
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pause and tune into my body and see where the
pressure was coming from.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Interesting.
Speaker 7 (12:49):
So, yeah, very windy, but it really started with wanting
to be a better mom.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
I give you a lot of credit for that.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
To vocally say that and admit like, these are my
issues as a.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Mom and I want to change them.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Were a lot of you know, people in general never
want to work on their flaws and just accept that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And go through life.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
But that was something that you realize I don't. I
don't want to be like this. I don't want to
be like from my past. This is how I want to,
you know, take care of my children. So I applaud
you for that, and to admit it, a lot, a
lot of more people should should do that. It's like
ridding the stigma of mom guilt and all that.
Speaker 7 (13:27):
Right.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Well, and I like because you put it in your
own control too, So that's I mean, that's hard work.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. So Andrew, what do you
mean then when it comes to you, Because I.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Know for sure your children are probably a huge backbone
for you. And I've heard you mentioned beforehand about soulmates
like your kids are, you're cherished, So tell us about that.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, it's this idea. So I've heard this concept from
Wayne Dyer. If you guys know, I love him.
Speaker 7 (13:58):
I've wrote all his book Yeah, I haven't read all
the books, but I know his quotes are just amazing.
And one of the concepts was the people who i'll paraphrase,
piss you off the most. They're really your soulmates because
they're here to show you where you're carrying on carrying
all this unconscious pain that's ready to be healed. And
so I look at my kids and they're still young,
they're still in that. Especially my son, he's in a
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very state where I think he's susceptible to some things.
I'm like, spirit just tapped you on the shoulder to
say that to make me mad on purpose. Yeah, because
I believe that we're all here, the goal for all
of us is really to heal from all the crap
of our past. I'm trying to watch my language here
and to step into again who we're here to be
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at the highest level. And we can't carry that emotional
pain with us, the control, the guilt, the shame, like
none of that belongs where we're trying to go. But
because it's unconscious by definition, we can't actually see it.
The only way to see it is if outer people
say things, do things, situations happen that bring up that
pain for us. And so I really believe that my kids,
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in particular, they're pretty tapped in and they're here intentionally
going crazy saying the thing sometimes for me to say, oh,
that's because I'm carrying this thing. And I wouldn't have
seen this this emotional pattern had they not done that. Thing,
and so I've really looked at them as I'm not
here to like power over them or control them necessarily,
(15:31):
but they're here to teach me and they're here to
help me heal. And that's a pretty big reframe that
has helped me through. As you said, it is really
hard to be willing to look at your flaws and
all of your stuff. But yes, that's a reframe that
has helped me realize It's it's also not just for me.
If I heal it, they don't have to carry it.
And so they're here serving.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Power but also serving them. Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
That is very powerful.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (15:56):
Yeah, And it's interesting too, as you say, you're being taught,
you know, by your children. What are some of the
biggest lessons you've learned as a mom?
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Can you give example?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I want to hear it all.
Speaker 7 (16:10):
And it's funny because one of the women I feel
like I'm here to serve is this really like type,
a really ambitious woman. And so we have these patterns
in work that for a long time they serve us
and they bring a lot of success. So like perfectionism,
like doing things really well, controlling your environment, the way
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you speak, and the way like I was really successful
at work in all those things because I learned how
to speak in a way that people would respect me.
I learned how to, you know, just control environments. And kids,
you know, they are not perfect. They do not like
to be controlled. And so they brought up a lot
of those lessons that I had to look at that
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really were not serving me. So perfection, for example, like
I now believe that nothing is perfect, like we're perfect
in our imperfection. But I had this image of who
I was trying to be, and I had this image
of how I wanted my kids to show up, and
I wanted them to have the perfectly matched clothes and
to go out and act perfect in public and take
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the pictures that I could put on social media. And
so I very quickly had to realize, they're not gonna
be quote unquote perfect. Perfect actually isn't even a real thing,
and so I should probably shift how I consider that.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And so that was one thing. Control was another big one.
Speaker 7 (17:31):
Where and these are things I'm still working through where
I feel like I need to control every aspect of
my environment in order to feel safe in myself and
in my body. And kids don't listen my kids especially
I learned very they didn't respond to like I tried
the things initially, the yelling, the timeouts, the things I
was raising, and they didn't respect any of them at all.
(17:54):
And so I've had to learn that I can't control them.
And in some cases it's okay, like their their own entity.
They're their own kid, and they need to learn to
and so finding ways to feel safe in my environment
and control what I can, but not get upset if
I can't control all of the things. And so those
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have been a couple I would say, and just communicating
to I remember one instance where I was so mad
that I had to pick up their toys and I
was fuming, and so I used my process and I said, okay,
I'm mad right now, let's go in and understand what
this is about. And what was running through my head
the words running through my head where you're going to
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be picking up toys for the rest of your life.
And so I was so mad about that, and I
just I didn't want to do it, and so I
sat and I felt the emotion and I breathe through
the emotion, and then on the other end of it,
I realized I'd call it my solution space, my solution
energy when you're out of the stress. I was like,
I never even taught them how to pick up toys.
I never even said that expectation.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I just assumed that they are these humans and they
would know, sure.
Speaker 7 (19:02):
And so I've also just been able to get different
insights through my process that help me be a better
parent instead of just yelling and saying, pick up your toys.
It's like, no, I never actually even taught that to them,
and so I need to teach them and reinforce those
teachings in a calm way.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
And so, yeah, that's a few but I've.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Spent I need to learn that because every time I
walk into my daughter's bedroom, I'm like, oh my gosh,
Oh my gosh, should I get I get anxiety.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
And just but I can't. I can't do anything about it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
You know, it just it happens every time. And I
need to learn to just she's a teenager.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
She's a teenager, right, and not get so you know,
upset about it in my own.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
Body because it does. I can't even look at it.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
It affects me. I think that's really cool.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
The solution space, that's nice. Yeah, I feel like I
need more solutions, spaces.
Speaker 4 (19:55):
In my day. We all need a little bit more
space and to feel you know, safe.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
It's it's super important.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
So I love this, Andrea, what you offer, you know,
our community here and especially moms and you taking the
chance and you know, walking a journey of your life
where you're like, I'm not happy doing this, I want
to do this and you're making it happen for yourself
and we love that as women empowering other women. So
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how can people get a hold of you if they
want to, you know, get a session with you?
Speaker 7 (20:27):
Yeah, and social media the two places I show up
most regularly are LinkedIn so Andrea Andre with to ease
at the end and Instagram at Mom's gone quantum. Then again,
Mom's gone quantum all one word okay M O M
S G O N E q U A N t
U M.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I think I'm sort of stuck with that by right now.
But hello.
Speaker 7 (20:52):
And then my website is Andrea Andre to East dot
com and then sort of you can find my contact
information on there. It's the website and itself is getting
a revamp right now.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But those are the places I will be there. You
can get a hold of me if you go to.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
Those fabulous and you do one on one and then
is it can buy video in person.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
It's all been video so far.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Okay, yep, it's great, wonderful and we'll put all your
information to in the podcast so everybody knows how to
get a hold of you.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
So well, thank you so much for coming on the show.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yes, thanks for having me. This was so fun.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
Well, and I love talking about this stuff.
Speaker 5 (21:28):
I mean, it's always great to just have new tools
for moms.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
It's hard, hard being of momad.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
Honey, we all need to go take a vacation in
Pasion four in Dollywood, in Dollywood and maybe have a
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Krina.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
As always, it's so fabulous to see you, my dear friend.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
How have you been. I mean I've been I've been good.
You've been good, I've been good.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Well you on.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You just got back from a fabulous vacation with Dollywood,
Dollywood Dollywood.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
I didn't get to meet the Dolly parton, but I
got to see her castle essentially.
Speaker 4 (00:34):
I mean her like legacy. I mean, she's amazing, isn't
it amazing?
Speaker 5 (00:39):
I mean you have connections to Pigeon Forge where this.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Yeah, so my dad used to live in Severeville, Okay, so,
and then he also had an art gallery and Pigeon Forge.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
And that place is just amazing. It's like Wisconsin's els.
It really is in Tennessee.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
It's in Tennessee, so it's got a little southern by
uh huh.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I feel like people are so friendly. That was one
of the things I was really taken back.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
So, I mean, if you're.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Looking for family friendly, clean vacation spot, up in the
Smoki where the air is so crisp. Man, I was
just like breathing in the air.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
It was great. Air's great stay away from the homemade
moonshine that.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Oh, I did see a lot of a lot.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
I did say, are you sure you didn't see a
lot of moms?
Speaker 4 (01:18):
I put one back because that's what we do sometimes
we meet. So, man, it was great. It felt good
to get away. But also the kids are a little nutty.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Okay, you know, I kind of cat back, and I
was like, it's time for school.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
I love you guys. It has a lot of time.
It is time and a lot of time together.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Well, I'm really excited about today's guests, and you know,
to all of our listeners, you do not want to
miss out because we have a fabulous lady boss. Let
me get into her bio because it really touched me
as far as women empowerment, and she's a mom herself.
So this fabulous guest did everything that she thought a
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successful woman was supposed to do.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
I remember being taught this, go to college, get a job,
but then you get married, then you start a family, right,
that's those are the steps.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
When she had all the things she thought should make
her happy, She sat back and realized.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
You know what I'm not. I'm not fulfilled.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
As she started asking why, multiple things then converged for her.
As an employee, she heard a whisper that if she
stayed in corporate she wouldn't live up to her full potential.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
How many of us have been at work and sat
there and like, gosh, why am I here?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Right?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So she followed that whisper and eventually left corporate to
start a business helping women transcend their interferes so that
they can make the impact in the world that they
were born to make. And like I mentioned as a mom,
she learned she's a cycle breaker, which I'm so excited
to learn what that is. And she's here to help
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those with old emotional patterns and shift away from the
control based parent style seen in generations before us. As
you know, as many of us are going through that
as parents.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
I'm so excited to introduce Andrea Andre.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
She is the spiritual empowerment coach and we are so
delighted to have you.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Hello.
Speaker 6 (03:15):
Hello, yeah, yeah, Well we're super excited because we have
a mutual friend and we just had her on the
beautiful MJ Reiners herself.
Speaker 7 (03:26):
Absolutely, yeah, Yes, I love MJ. We can talk energy,
we can geek out for hours.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yes, And I think it's really important when it comes
to energy work. If you've never had it before, you're
gonna want to try it. But a lot of people
have not heard of this particular type of teachings that
you do, So why don't you, first, you know, kind
of give us a basis of what a spiritual coach is.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
Absolutely yeah, And it's funny that you asked us, because
this has been one of the hardest things for me,
is to put words into a feeling like what is
this that.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I'm here to do?
Speaker 7 (04:00):
So when I think of spiritual empowerment coach, for me,
spirituality is who are you here to be at the
highest level.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
So a lot of people think authentic cell for your
highest self? Who are you here to be?
Speaker 7 (04:11):
And how can you work with the laws of the
universe to make that happen? Because we know that we're
all here creating our own world. Basically, the blow of
attraction of the energy you put out is what you're
bringing back to you and so I like to help
people understand that so they can not become or not
feel like victims of their own lives and understand how
they can actually be in control of how people treat
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them and what sorts of opportunities they attract. So for me,
that's the spiritual part and a little bit of the
empowerment part too, where I really want people to feel
like they can go after the life that they were
born to live. Basically, we all have these little nudges
and these whispers and these little glimpses of I think
I should be doing this, or maybe I should be
doing that, And I want people to know those glimpses
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are for them. Those aren't just random things that they
you know, other people get to follow their dreams, but
they don't.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
But those glimpses are for them and.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
Their breadcrumbs to what they're here to do and who
they're here to be. And so I really want to
bring that out of people.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
That's so interesting to me.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Love it right, you know, because a lot of us
want to still do certain things. You know, even at
you know, my age going to be forty eight soon,
there's still more that I want to do.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And sometimes you know, the.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Fear the unknown can cause you anxiety and hold yourself
and like you said, you help people to get.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
That out of the way, because those are the blocked Yep,
you know when we have that fear based.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Thought, which we're I feel like we're taught at.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
A young age, right, we kind of fear that we
go with the flow. I love the world that you
know you're talking about that we create because I you know,
I'm a huge believer in all that. I mean, I
studied law of attraction for so long. I mean that
stuffs real.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
So when it comes to the coaching, we're also interested
in the term that you have used before that pertains too,
especially our mom's out there cycle breaker.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
What is this all about?
Speaker 5 (06:04):
And okay, wait, you've now said this twice and I
keep thinking you're saying psycho breaker, but it's actually cycle right. No,
I know you're not, but I keep hearing that, and
I'm like, I want to know both.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
How do we bring that psycho.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
That's a different that's a different another episode.
Speaker 7 (06:21):
I think the psycho is going up, actually go through
this process, not going down cycle psycho.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
Yes, that's all about that.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, so anything about cycles.
Speaker 7 (06:32):
I think about parenting styles and how parenting styles tend
to get passed down from generation to generation and so
some people talk about the woman and the worth and
how women were supposed to put ourselves aside and we're
supposed to do all the things for other people. So
that's one cycle that has gotten passed down for me.
The one I've been more working through is this command
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and control style parenting where when I grew up, my
feelings didn't matter. It was really you know, I had
to listen to my parents. I couldn't challenge authority. They
yelled at me, they instilled fear, and so I followed by.
I was afraid of getting in trouble, and so I
lost all sense of who I'm here to be and
my own inner authority.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
And that's not who I wanted to be as a parent.
Speaker 7 (07:19):
I wanted to be this compassionate parent where I supported
my kid's emotions and I supported who they're here to
be and didn't just try to instill my own values
onto them and this whole idea of what we think
we're supposed to be to fit into society.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
And so it was a shift, and I didn't want
to yell at them.
Speaker 7 (07:38):
I didn't want to make them listen to me and
just blindly follow all the things that I said and
so I had to.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I call it break the cycle of how I was taught.
Speaker 7 (07:47):
And how I was raised as a parent and parent
completely differently, which involved a lot of emotional healing and
trauma healing that I had to do because it gets
stored in our body. And so I've seen this term
on social media, and I thought it might be interesting
for your audience because a lot of people that I attract,
they're also moms.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Not all of them are moms, but a lot of them.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
They just inherently know they're here to parent differently, and
they just might not really know what that means or
what that looks like or why.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
They have that feeling.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
And so it's probably because you're a cycle breaker if
you've never heard that term.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
You're here to break all of.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
The patterns that we're taught from your parents to you,
and their parents to them and everyone before them.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yeah, and cycle cycle breaking. It's not necessarily bad things, right,
you know, because I think about my own upbringing, and
my parents were so relaxed with us in a lot
of ways, like oh your six sure, stay home, Oh
you want to quit piano?
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Sure?
Speaker 5 (08:45):
You know they were really they were kind of like
the mister Roger type parents, which I you know, I
look at that now and I'm like, oh, you should
have probably said to me, like give it six more months, kiddo,
you know. And I'm actually a very different parent.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
I'm not.
Speaker 5 (08:59):
I have that element that you know, you've met my
mom crystall like she's just so gentle in that way,
and I have a lot of that in me. But
then I'm like, I want to break that cycle of
just being okay with you know everything, you know, And
so that's interesting to even look at it in both ways.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
So that's interesting because you are you as a human
are very relaxed, Like I don't see Karna if she's
handling something difficult, I don't see like the anxiety, her
getting upset. But you're very vocal at the same time,
so you're a strong woman that way.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
But you are similar to you know, like your mom.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
I can see that that you're just always very happy.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Yeah, yeah, I just it's so interesting to look at
motherhood in such in that cycle way. But yeah, so
that's interesting. I'm so intrigued by you kind of touched
on this a little bit, but like, how did you
actually come into this path and go down it?
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Because there's a.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Lot of people that are interested, but they don't really
I don't decide to make it a life occupation.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Absolutely for me.
Speaker 7 (10:06):
The mom part in particular was after having kids, and
it was my daughter. She's my oldest, she's nine right now.
So it started happening around the time she was one.
She was moving and grooving and getting into things around
the house, and I realized I was like a freak.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
I was yelling, I was controlling. I like the psycho.
We're gonna say psycho.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
In some cases, and there comes out there it.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Came out, and I was like, where, you know, the
consequence did not fit.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
There was no crime, but if we use those words,
like the consequence did not fit the crime. She was
just being a normal one year old and here I
was showing these incredibly controlling patterns.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
I was yelling, I was screaming when things didn't go
my way.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
And so I had a moment where I realized that
wasn't who I wanted to be, that wasn't how I
wanted to parent my kids. And I didn't know necessarily
how to get out of it, but there was just
this idea. Someone asked me, how did you know that
there was even a different possibility available because most people
they just assume they're yellers and they're always going to
be yellers.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
And I really don't have an answer to that question.
Speaker 7 (11:10):
I just think that because it was my path and
my thing to learn, there was this new idea that
came and was born in me and.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Helped me realize that this isn't who I wanted to be.
Speaker 7 (11:21):
And so I believe that when you're ready, the resources
also start appearing, and so I started getting these ideas
of conscious parenting courses would come into my play. And
that's also how I got into energy work. Kind of separately,
I started getting really curious about understanding energy, and so
understanding energy is where I learned how we store our
trauma patterns and how they show up. It's really never
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about the kid, it's really the kid is just poking
at an old pain that was never allowed to be
seen or released.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And so that shift helped me just learn more and more.
Speaker 7 (11:55):
About how to So I'm almost entirely self healed. I
and for me, a lot of people say, well, what
is your healing modality? I'm like, I just feel my
feelings and I breathe really it's that simple. But what
I realized in going down this path was I have
a choice. A lot of people talk about the pregnant pause,
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like just pause before you yell at your kids, and
so I would pause, I would say I'm not supposed
to yell at them right now, and then I would yell.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And so for me, I needed more than the pregnant pause.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
And so that's where I learned to just take a
moment and feel into my body and actually breathe into
that emotion that was coming up as wanting to be
yelled at, and that I was actually able to diminish
the pain over time, not just pause and like will
power my way through it, but actually not even feel
the need to yell anymore because I learned to just
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pause and tune into my body and see where the
pressure was coming from.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Interesting.
Speaker 7 (12:49):
So, yeah, very windy, but it really started with wanting
to be a better mom.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
I give you a lot of credit for that.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
To vocally say that and admit like, these are my
issues as a.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Mom and I want to change them.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Were a lot of you know, people in general never
want to work on their flaws and just accept that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And go through life.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
But that was something that you realize I don't. I
don't want to be like this. I don't want to
be like from my past. This is how I want to,
you know, take care of my children. So I applaud
you for that, and to admit it, a lot, a
lot of more people should should do that. It's like
ridding the stigma of mom guilt and all that.
Speaker 7 (13:27):
Right.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Well, and I like because you put it in your
own control too, So that's I mean, that's hard work.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. So Andrew, what do you
mean then when it comes to you, Because I.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Know for sure your children are probably a huge backbone
for you. And I've heard you mentioned beforehand about soulmates
like your kids are, you're cherished, So tell us about that.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, it's this idea. So I've heard this concept from
Wayne Dyer. If you guys know, I love him.
Speaker 7 (13:58):
I've wrote all his book Yeah, I haven't read all
the books, but I know his quotes are just amazing.
And one of the concepts was the people who i'll paraphrase,
piss you off the most. They're really your soulmates because
they're here to show you where you're carrying on carrying
all this unconscious pain that's ready to be healed. And
so I look at my kids and they're still young,
they're still in that. Especially my son, he's in a
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very state where I think he's susceptible to some things.
I'm like, spirit just tapped you on the shoulder to
say that to make me mad on purpose. Yeah, because
I believe that we're all here, the goal for all
of us is really to heal from all the crap
of our past. I'm trying to watch my language here
and to step into again who we're here to be
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at the highest level. And we can't carry that emotional
pain with us, the control, the guilt, the shame, like
none of that belongs where we're trying to go. But
because it's unconscious by definition, we can't actually see it.
The only way to see it is if outer people
say things, do things, situations happen that bring up that
pain for us. And so I really believe that my kids,
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in particular, they're pretty tapped in and they're here intentionally
going crazy saying the thing sometimes for me to say, oh,
that's because I'm carrying this thing. And I wouldn't have
seen this this emotional pattern had they not done that. Thing,
and so I've really looked at them as I'm not
here to like power over them or control them necessarily,
(15:31):
but they're here to teach me and they're here to
help me heal. And that's a pretty big reframe that
has helped me through. As you said, it is really
hard to be willing to look at your flaws and
all of your stuff. But yes, that's a reframe that
has helped me realize It's it's also not just for me.
If I heal it, they don't have to carry it.
And so they're here serving.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Power but also serving them. Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
That is very powerful.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (15:56):
Yeah, And it's interesting too, as you say, you're being taught,
you know, by your children. What are some of the
biggest lessons you've learned as a mom?
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Can you give example?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I want to hear it all.
Speaker 7 (16:10):
And it's funny because one of the women I feel
like I'm here to serve is this really like type,
a really ambitious woman. And so we have these patterns
in work that for a long time they serve us
and they bring a lot of success. So like perfectionism,
like doing things really well, controlling your environment, the way
(16:31):
you speak, and the way like I was really successful
at work in all those things because I learned how
to speak in a way that people would respect me.
I learned how to, you know, just control environments. And kids,
you know, they are not perfect. They do not like
to be controlled. And so they brought up a lot
of those lessons that I had to look at that
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really were not serving me. So perfection, for example, like
I now believe that nothing is perfect, like we're perfect
in our imperfection. But I had this image of who
I was trying to be, and I had this image
of how I wanted my kids to show up, and
I wanted them to have the perfectly matched clothes and
to go out and act perfect in public and take
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the pictures that I could put on social media. And
so I very quickly had to realize, they're not gonna
be quote unquote perfect. Perfect actually isn't even a real thing,
and so I should probably shift how I consider that.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And so that was one thing. Control was another big one.
Speaker 7 (17:31):
Where and these are things I'm still working through where
I feel like I need to control every aspect of
my environment in order to feel safe in myself and
in my body. And kids don't listen my kids especially
I learned very they didn't respond to like I tried
the things initially, the yelling, the timeouts, the things I
was raising, and they didn't respect any of them at all.
(17:54):
And so I've had to learn that I can't control them.
And in some cases it's okay, like their their own entity.
They're their own kid, and they need to learn to
and so finding ways to feel safe in my environment
and control what I can, but not get upset if
I can't control all of the things. And so those
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have been a couple I would say, and just communicating
to I remember one instance where I was so mad
that I had to pick up their toys and I
was fuming, and so I used my process and I said, okay,
I'm mad right now, let's go in and understand what
this is about. And what was running through my head
the words running through my head where you're going to
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be picking up toys for the rest of your life.
And so I was so mad about that, and I
just I didn't want to do it, and so I
sat and I felt the emotion and I breathe through
the emotion, and then on the other end of it,
I realized I'd call it my solution space, my solution
energy when you're out of the stress. I was like,
I never even taught them how to pick up toys.
I never even said that expectation.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I just assumed that they are these humans and they
would know, sure.
Speaker 7 (19:02):
And so I've also just been able to get different
insights through my process that help me be a better
parent instead of just yelling and saying, pick up your toys.
It's like, no, I never actually even taught that to them,
and so I need to teach them and reinforce those
teachings in a calm way.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
And so, yeah, that's a few but I've.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Spent I need to learn that because every time I
walk into my daughter's bedroom, I'm like, oh my gosh,
Oh my gosh, should I get I get anxiety.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
And just but I can't. I can't do anything about it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
You know, it just it happens every time. And I
need to learn to just she's a teenager.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
She's a teenager, right, and not get so you know,
upset about it in my own.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
Body because it does. I can't even look at it.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
It affects me. I think that's really cool.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
The solution space, that's nice. Yeah, I feel like I
need more solutions, spaces.
Speaker 4 (19:55):
In my day. We all need a little bit more
space and to feel you know, safe.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
It's it's super important.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
So I love this, Andrea, what you offer, you know,
our community here and especially moms and you taking the
chance and you know, walking a journey of your life
where you're like, I'm not happy doing this, I want
to do this and you're making it happen for yourself
and we love that as women empowering other women. So
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how can people get a hold of you if they
want to, you know, get a session with you?
Speaker 7 (20:27):
Yeah, and social media the two places I show up
most regularly are LinkedIn so Andrea Andre with to ease
at the end and Instagram at Mom's gone quantum. Then again,
Mom's gone quantum all one word okay M O M
S G O N E q U A N t
U M.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I think I'm sort of stuck with that by right now.
But hello.
Speaker 7 (20:52):
And then my website is Andrea Andre to East dot
com and then sort of you can find my contact
information on there. It's the website and itself is getting
a revamp right now.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But those are the places I will be there. You
can get a hold of me if you go to.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
Those fabulous and you do one on one and then
is it can buy video in person.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
It's all been video so far.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Okay, yep, it's great, wonderful and we'll put all your
information to in the podcast so everybody knows how to
get a hold of you.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
So well, thank you so much for coming on the show.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yes, thanks for having me. This was so fun.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
Well, and I love talking about this stuff.
Speaker 5 (21:28):
I mean, it's always great to just have new tools
for moms.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
It's hard, hard being of momad.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
Honey, we all need to go take a vacation in
Pasion four in Dollywood, in Dollywood and maybe have a
little snip move just This is.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
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