Back in Time

What lessons have you learned that you wish you could go back in time and tell your younger self? Oh boy, how much time we got?

Episode Transcript

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Welcome back to the podcast. Thisis off the air, more banter,
less filter, time for a freshpodcast. It's been a minute. It
has apologies. Well you know,I'm not gonna lie. There's a lot
going on. Yeah, there isa lot going on. I love these
kind of topics and so I wantedto talk about it. This is life
lessons that you know now that youwish you could go back and tell your

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twenty plus year old self. Yeah, and I dig these because I saw
a meme the other day. Wouldyou rather, Corey? Let me ask
you, would you rather go backto being six years old with all of
the knowledge that you have now?Or I hand you ten million dollars right
now on the spot, ten milliondollars. You wouldn't go back now?
You wouldn't do it over? Notsix years. Oh, I would take

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a do over all day. IfI could go back to high school maybe
now six years old. That's wageyou long your whole life, smart to
be six? No, dude,I would. I would invest in Amazon
and Google and I'd make that tenmillion about ten minutes. Yeah, but
you have to start it six Yeah. No, Okay, I don't want

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to go through my parents divorce again. I'm dying of cancer again. Sorry,
didn't mean to bring the room down, right, You're right, I
forgot. I forgot. There's acertain amount of trauma attached to that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, okay, I get it. Sorry,
So okay, here are some sagepieces of advice from older people if

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they could go back and tell theiryounger selves. Number One, exercise and
take care of yourself. What youlose over time is hard to get back.
I'll tell you what, man,it would be nice to wake up
one day and not have any achesor pains. I'm pretty ache in pain
free. Not to brag, butI have discovered a chiropractor who is a

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miracle worker. That's what I needto do because my neck hurts all the
time. Dude, let me hookhook you up with my guy. I'm
a side sleeper, and I thinkthat has a lot to do with it.
Yeah. So I have cerebral palsy. So I've been walking weird my
whole life, and one day aboutI don't know, ten years ago,
I woke up and just could notbarely move. I know, when I
met you, I thought, God, this guy is really drunk all the

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time. When yeah, because Ijust saw you walking, and I was
like, how much have you had? Bro right, But my chiropractor basically
keeps me aligne, so I havevery little pain. Not to brag,
I know, hate me now,but you do something about it. You're
being proactive. So basically, Imean, the headline for me here is
keep moving. The second you PLoPdown and you eat whatever you want,

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you don't exercise, you don't takecare of yourself. The older you get,
the harder it is to shed thosepounds. The harder is to stay
moving. Why are you looking atme like that. I'm just maintaining eye
contact for conversational purposes. I feellike it's more accusatory. No, not
at all. I'm talking to myself. Okay. Although you are the person
that did literally burn a hole inyour couch, I did during the pandemic.

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This seems came apart from where Isat every day for two years for
two years. Sorry, true storyman, the funny visual. So lesson
number one, exercise and take careof yourself. Lesson to an occasional social
drink is fine, but making alifestyle out of being a total lush impresses
no one, and it is horrendousfor it. I really feel like this

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list is about me. If I'mbeing honest, I mean for me from
my perspective, Like I like todrink. We know this. This is
a any video that you see Koreyand I do together, there's probably a
cocktail involve. Probably probably it isa cocktail involved. Yeah, but you
know that kind of stuff for me, high blood pressure, diabetes, heart

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issues, you know what I mean. That's that's where it could lead if
you don't keep it in check.Sure, and when you're young, you
don't care. You think your bulletproof. Well it's different. Now when you're
young, you're drinking to get drunk. I was just talking about this other
day, like shots. Who doesshots after the age of forty, And
that's a that's drinking with a purpose. That's usually we did shots so we

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wouldn't have to pay for alcohol,and we went out because we were poor.
And now I drink because I likethe taste. I actually enjoy a
good glass of wine. If I'mdoing a shot with you, that means
we're celebrating a moment. Like I'vedone a lot of shots at tequila over
the last three or four months becauseeverybody wants to toast my dad, okay,
which is fine. He like tequila. That's a reason, and that's

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a reason. But it's got tobe good tequila. But like, if
your favorite cocktail is a boiler maker, do you know what that is?
It's literally a shot in a beer. Yeah, that's drinking with purpose.
I've seen people at the airport doingdouble Jamie's before ten o'clock. I've done
that. I've been that guy.I believe that the airport's a special place.

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Though you can sleep anywhere, youcan drink anything. It's the door
to Narnia. Time doesn't matter.I'm probably headed somewhere awesome. Time does
really matter actually at the airport.I love this one. Never stops seeking
knowledge about the world, the people, and yourself that I think. You
know, you got to keep upor you're gonna be left behind. I

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tell my daughter the two most I'mconvinced the two most important traits that a
person can have our curiosity and tenacity. Yes, I agree with that.
Very little else matters. There's onethat I really like on hear about friendships
being contagious. When you hang aroundpositive and driven people, it's better than
being held back by toxic you knowenergy. My sister has even admitted to

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me that she sometimes surrounds herself withneedy and what's a good word for it,
because I don't want to be meancodependent train wrecks. Does it make
her feel better about herself? Ithink so. And I think she feels
like she's needed. They need herto help them and she's a fixer.

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Yeah, but I think she likesit now. On the other hand,
I feel like they suck or dry, you know, yeah, when you're
around that toxic energy, take yourenergy. And again, this is all
very good advice. And if you'resitting there like I didn't ask for your
advice, but like, if wecan help one person, these are literally
all the things I would tell mytwenty year old stuff if I could go

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back and do it over again.Another one that I don't think is on
the list because it has to domore with what I consider financial success.
If I knew then what I knownow, I would have bought a lot
more real estate. I would suggest, by as much real estate as you
can, as quickly as you can. You do realize we're in the Bay
Area. I know that, butI was in the Bay Area when I

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got my first big job. Inninety eight and I was making for me.
It was a lot of money.I was working in Fresno at the
time, making twenty five k.I moved to San Francisco got my first
big job. I was making eightywhich doesn't sound like a ton. But
remember single, no kids, nogirlfriend, no wife, no response abilities,
no debt. I should have boughtanything, something, but instead I

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decided to ball out of control fora long time. And that's why you're
saying, if I could go backand till my twenty year old self,
I was lucky. I one ofthe guys I worked with when I was
in my I think it was twentyeight. I was looking for a place
to live and he's like, whyare you renting? Why are you throwing
money away on rent? And Ibought my first town home. Yeah,
and how old were you twenty eight? Okay, And that's what that's what

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we're trying to do here, ismy husband I are trying to do here
because the rent is so insane here, and so even though it's harder for
us to buy a house right now, in the long run, we're going
to be happier. And I justI should have listened to my ex father
in law. I remember standing withhim. So he has a house right
in the center of the city,right like kind of geary Masonic area.

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Yeah, and I asked my songive me some advice. He goes,
Marcus. If I knew then whatI know now, I would have I
would have bought this house, andI would have bought this whole block.
Oh wow, because that's there's moneythere. There's money if you can wait
long enough. I know we're kindof in a downturn right now, but
if you can wait it out,it will return in the end. Yeah.

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So again, these are all thingsthat when I was in my twenties
I didn't want to hear. Ididn't want to hear save your money.
The sounds lame, But dude,if I could go back and do it
again, I would have put awayway more money and would have about way
more real estate and invested more.You know what I love on this list?
Limit social media time. It's notthe real world. Yes, that
is correct. I think people getso invested on taking the perfect photo filters,

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living their best life online. Areyou living your best life in real
life? This is serious. Coupledwith that time is the only thing you
can't replace. Yeah, just letthat sink in. And that, to
me is true for all different facetsof your life. When you're younger and
you think you're never going to getold and you think you're bullet proof,
and then you're older and you're you'relike me, you know, you have

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a child and you're just so tiredyou can't wait for them to grow up,
and then you blink and they growup and you wish you could go.
But I wish, like my daughteris eight, I wish I could
go back to when she was likefour and just relive that a little slower.
It's a Kenney Chesney song, bythe way, what don't blink,
don't blink, don't blink. Thedays are long, but the years are

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short. Hashtag don't blink. Imean, it's what everybody says, like,
don't blink. It goes by quick, and it really does. Dude,
if you have a kid right nowand maybe they're making you crazy on
some level and you're sleep deprived,you should still what was that advice Jason
read? It was like an eightyyear old guy not on his deathbed,
but he you know, he wastalking to a younger dad who was talking

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about how crazy his kids were.He goes, I want you to imagine
that you're eighty and think back tothese moments and how much you wish you
could have him back again. Thisis a really serious podcast, too serious.
Well, you know what I wantto throw out there, and it's
not necessarily in the list, butit's okay to say no. Yeah.
I think we all feel obligated todo everything all the time, and I

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love that I feel okay going nahyeah, because it's like you asked me
to go to the Giants game,but I've got to go to an appearance
on the same day, and I'mlike, I will be worn out,
I will be tired, and thenyou know, and it's like I would
love to go to the game withyou, but I can't. I have
a friend who is inviting me togo see shows of bands that I don't

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care about, and I want tospend time with him, but I don't
necessarily want to go see this band. I don't care. I don't you
know what I mean? Yeah,I do, because I've been to so
many concerts I don't care anymore,Right, I don't need to go another
I like live music if it's aband that I'm into or that I want
to see. Here's another one that'sreally hard for me, just by virtue
of what we do for a living. Listen more, talk less. That's

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never gonna happen. That's tough whenyou're someone who gets paid to talk,
because you hear this all the time. What's that old thing? It's like
I thought you were dumb and thenyou opened your mouth and proved it or
something like that. I don't know. It sounds like a bumper sticker,
right, But that's a tough onefor us. But just listening, if
you can just listen, Yes,when it's not your time to talk,

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Yes, I hate it when you'retalking to somebody and they're talking at you,
not to you. They don't evencare what you're going to reply because
it doesn't matter. We spend somuch time not listening to what the other
person is saying, but rather formulatingour response. Right, right, Yes,
I heard something that I really liked. It's a success not a successful

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person, but practice practice being interested, not interesting. That's deep right,
that's a thinker, right, Igot to think about that. Learn the
art of self forgiveness. Huh.I love that, but also apologize to
those you've wronged. Uh, let'ssee, just because bad things happen,

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it doesn't mean you're a victim.Don't act like one. I think I'm
pretty good at that, I wouldsay, so you you that goes hand
in hand to me with owning stuff, like you own your shit? Yeah
right, yeah, So when somethingbad happens to me or not even bad,
but like, because there are badthings that happen to you because of

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something that somebody else did that wasbad and it's not your fault, person,
it's not your fault. But thenthere are other situations where you critically
say to yourself, how could Ihave played that better? How could I
have prepared for that moment better?How could I have done better? You
know what I mean? Yeah?Totally? What else is on here that
I like? Perfection doesn't exist?Just strive to always be a little better.

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I mean that's that's like a dailymantra, like, but it doesn't
seem to be working though. I'mtrying to be better every day and I'm
not. I'm hoping when Jeff getshere permanently he'll keep me in line.
But Jeff, Yeah, here's anotherone that I do, Like, develop
a budget stick to it. Thisgoes right hand in hand with save your

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money. This is also a bigdevelop a budget. Stick to it.
Don't get sucked into credit card traps. Nothing will destroy you more financially than
getting caught up in credit cards.Yeah, my dad don't know. When
I was in college, when Igot my first credit card, it's like,
don't use this to buy food,right, I bought food and like,
next thing, you know, I'mjust like I was buying things for
friends and feeling like, you know, like you said earlier, Baller,

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Yeah that was me. There areso many good ones here. I would
invite everybody to chime in on one. If you're listening to the podcast right
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piece of advice you wish you couldtell your twenty year old self would love
to hear. I guess that's it. Yeah, I feel pretty good.
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next week. Ye